To not wear my wedding ring

[Inkandbone]

I hate rings.

They feel weird on my fingers, I don't like having to remove them when I wash my hands and then when I do remove them I forget and scurry back to the toilet in a rush.

Dh and I have been sniping at each other lately and he brought this up as something he's not happy with.

So AIBU not to wear them? It's not a new thing. I married dh in 2005 and after losing the ring three times that summer gave up and the rings have been in a jewellery box since.

I don't wear mine. A ring does not make me love dh any more or less. It does not make us any more or less married. All it does is signal to other people that I am married. If this is an issue I am more than capable of articulating that. YANBU.

I love my rings (actually apart from lipstick or indeed any form of makeup unless wedding or funeral I'm like your DM) but I can't see why it should bother anyone that you don't, each to their own

We don't wear our rings either. Me for the same reasons as you, dh not a jewellery person but then I managed to accidentally give his ring away

Definitely not just you OP I tend not to wear mine either. Similar reasons as yours, they knock off things and I hate the feeling of them wet. The water gets in there and it's uncomfortable and I have to adjust them to dry my finger, and that's just when I wash my hands. I would hate to have to keep them on while my hands were submerged in water to do the dishes.

But my DH doesn't wear his ring either.

Does he wear a wedding ring, OP?

No, but he's never had one!

I often can't wear mine due to swollen fingers. I know women who just never take theirs off and look like they'd need to amputate to do so but I couldn't do that.

If my DH was picking fights over an absent ring I'd be prodding him to find out whether there was some issue of trust or insecurity because to risk our relationship simply over a ring would seem unreasonable to me. It's a symbol, not a protective forcefield that can ward off infidelity.

I don't like wearing rings either, so I don't.

X-post! Hang on... HE doesn't wear one?? How can he possibly think he has a leg to stand on?

It really doesn’t matter whether your DH is happy or not with you not wearing a ring - your finger and your jewelry. I’ve never worn a wedding ring as I don’t like rings - didn’t have one for our wedding day. My DH isn’t in the least bit bothered.

I don't wear mine, neither does DH when he's home.

He doesnt wear one? Hypocritical dick.

He is being a knob at the moment, but I wondered if he had a point.

I don't wear my rings often (although I am wearing them today!) because I have to wash my hands constantly at work and I have a hobby 5+ times a week which doesn't allow any jewellery to be worn. Most of the time they are not even as safe as in boxes, I leave them either in a china dish on one of the cabinets, or somewhere on my bedside table. I did manage to lose them for about 3 weeks once, felt terrible - and then my son found them sitting in one of my sports bags (in a pocket I didn't even know existed so goodness knows how I managed to put them in there).

I very rarely wear any other jewellery - earrings maybe once a month, necklaces / pendants even less.

I agree with @Liara that this sounds more like a symptom of an underlying problem rather than the actual problem itself.

Don't wear one.. I also dislike seeing Rings on a necklace... suit yourself OP

He has no right to complain, especially as he doesn't wear one.

The ceremony only specifies the giving and receiving of rings, not that you have to actually wear one.......

I know a number of women who don't wear their wedding rings, and some of them tell me they dislike the implied ownership aspect of being expected to wear a ring, that they're expected to show that they're taken when the same expectation isn't placed on men.

*My mother used to sit on the beach wearing swimsuit, wedding, engagement, eternity and other rings, charm bracelet, at least two necklaces and earrings. And pink lipstick.

WHY*

This is me! Minus the necklaces ‘cause you’re right they get caught in hair! I feel naked without my jewellery!

If they annoy you they annoy you and I wouldn’t wear them although I can see why he’d like you to, is there another way he would be happy to have you ‘show’ them so to speak?!

He doesn't wear one? Then he is being hypocritical. What exactly is bothering him considering he doesn't wear one himself?

I lost my wedding ring on a beach over 20 yrs ago and before that I didn't wear it a lot of the time so we didn't replace it. DH still has his after 30 odd years without losing it.

I used to use an antique eternity ring (although they were not called that in the 20s) sometimes in its place when traveling to particular locations where it was easier to operate as a visibly married person, but I've not worried about that in a long time.

1. He doesn't have a point.
2. He's being hypocritical/chauvinist.
3. Picking a thing about you to moan about doesn't sound very healthy.

Why doesn't he just get you branded with his initials? It won't wash off or fall off.

Neither Dh or I wear jewelry so we just left out exchanging rings when we got married. I haven't changed my name and don't use 'Mrs' as a title. We've been married for over 17 years and we're just as married as anyone else.

God, hope he doesn't see that suggestion!

No, he's just being a knob and whining. He will forget this soon enough. Silly, really, but ideas with friends today and noticed they all wore their wedding rings.

*I was, not ideas.