To think that most family arguments centre around money?

[Babababababybel23]

Looking back it has been the cause of all of our arguments and is the reason I've been NC with my DB for 6 years

My ex and I divorced last year.
Not one single argument about money and that’s because there was a lot of it and no money issues whatsoever.
The reasons we argued were, well, numerous and covered pretty much everything other than money!

Some people confuse money with other things. A lot of fights about money are actually fights about love.

It is too painful to feel unloved, so people feel financially hard-done-by instead.

A lot of fights about money are actually fights about love

That's what I came on to say. It's a symbol of all the other resources that a sibling might feel they came up short on - time, effort, attention.

Not in my family though. My mother is batshit mental so the last time I actually argued with my mother it was because she thought that by going and doing a job that she had asked me to do in her house, I was implying that she was common and lazy for wanting to listen to an Old Firm game on the radio. I know that makes no sense how I've told it, but honestly, AI don't know how to tell it to make it make any sense.

My family (mum dad & siblings) can argue about most things. Rarely it is money, more often it's unreasonable behaviour, different beliefs, health, visits, inability to use a phone, swearing, furniture (my brother & sister often argue about stealing each other's furniture to the point that I'm not sure whose furniture it actually is), cars..... yep we can argue about most things.
DH & I rarely argue but it's usually about housework/work balance and because we've not had enough sleep (thanks toddler)

In my family of 8 (2 parents and 6 grown children) there is no one person who speaks to everyone else.

Not one of those issues has anything to do with money.

Favouritism, poor parenting, bullying including physical assaults, and a raft of MH issues.

Money - nah.

My mother is batshit mental so the last time I actually argued with my mother it was because she thought that by going and doing a job that she had asked me to do in her house, I was implying that she was common and lazy for wanting to listen to an Old Firm game on the radio. I know that makes no sense how I've told it, but honestly, AI don't know how to tell it to make it make any sense.

We should have a thread; Deadpan accounts of happenings in our crazy families

We should have a thread; Deadpan accounts of happenings in our crazy families

We could do captioned pictures like a clickbait article. A picture of a burger and chips and salad with the caption "we went to my favourite cafe uptown and my mother was angry that I ordered this artisanal burger for my dad because she thought it was a sarcastic comment on the fact that he always forgets his glasses". A broken fridge shelf with a post-it on top saying "we were packing to move house and my mother asked my DH if there were any jobs she could help with. He took her at her word and asked her to clean the fridge. This was her reply." Or an old one from when I was a kid: a picture of a kid's watch. "This is the only windup children's watch in Glasgow. I know this because I visited every other jeweller's in Glasgow with my mother trying to find it, because one time 20 years ago she heard someone had a battery operated watch, and it broke." Or a picture of a baby's hat but in a size to fit an adult head, captioned with "proof that you can scale up a knitted baby hat pattern to the appropriate size for a 9 year old. Not that I needed any proof of this, having had to wear this every morning of winter 85/86 for the 45 steps between my house and the point where you could no longer see someone on the street from our front window"

It does you good to laugh, doesn't it? I kind of beer between feeling angry that I had to deal with all that crap as a kid, and guilty that my mother is so easy to send up. Paranoid personality disorder is darkly funny, from a distance anyway.

Yes the distance helps

we fell out because my sibling thought they could decide all of my late mothers funeral arrangements and I shouldnt have a say in any of it - despite the fact that we both had power of attourney over her affairs. we also fell out because he treated the rest of the family so badly - but that was mainly money related

Not my family, but I know friends of family who were always arguing about oo owed wat to oo. It can be a thing in some circles. And is one reason I don't lend money to friends or family.

I'm NC with my dad's siblings (bar one uncle) and my cousins over money/inheritance. It brings out the worst in people, old grudges, lying. I didn't think it would happen to our family but it did.

But it doesn't apply to all, nothing ever does.

@dreamingofsun
That is exactly what happened with my DB. He wanted to do a cheap funeral and keep the rest of the money

In my experience, the less people actually need the money, the more they fight about it.

We never argue over money

The only person I talk to about money let alone argue about it is my husband. Talking about money outside of your own household is just unnecessary and crass.

No most of ours are about religion.