to want DH to look for another job?

[auntymandy]

He says he wants to but I'm not sure he does!!

The money he earns is rubbish..the hours are long. We hardly see each other.

He has qualifications as an electrician, could earn loads more and have better hours.

Talk to him! Find out what his reasons are,whether he really enkoys what he's doing now etc. Ok, the money may not be great, but if he's content with what he's doing that matters a lot. I'm not a big fan of trying to make decisions job wise on someone else's behalf. Are you working at the moment? If not, then maybe the solution is for you to look for work - it might ease the burden on him.

I am not working.. I am a sahm.
I earn enough to put the food on the table with the odd things I do.
The hours he works is killing our relationship. I want to see more of him!
Some weeks he leaves the house at 7 and gets home about 1 am!
Its hard work for both of us!!

no one else has an opinion?!

Does he like what he does?

I would be equally hacked off about the long hours though.

what on earth does he do that keeps him out from 7am to 1am??

Yes,I have an opinion.
Kick his arse.

talk to him, does he liek it?

you obviously dont make sure he knows this.

Is hter a need for electiricains in your area?

speaking from experience, if he is working such long hours, he probably doesnt have time to think about changing his job.
could you find out some more details, or does he already know how much electricians earn in your area? has he lost confidence in that job if he hasnt done it for a bit?

what job does he do?

does he want to be an electrician?

i have to say my dh does those kind of hours (5am-midnight sometimes) in a similar type of job....the only way out i could find was to get a permanant job myself so i started nannying... and he does work fewer hours now..
but not enough to make a difference!

i think if he doesnt want to change job then you cant make him..

He works about an hour away from home which adds to the time. He is a sound Technician in a Theatre and on the whole likes it, but is talking of change.

I work part time as a nanny, take in ironing and sell Avon as well as being 30 weeks pregnant with my 6th child!

I would much rather be a sound T in a theatre than an electrician though even if the pay was worse. May be that's the problem. Was he doing this work and working these hours when you got together?

He was doing the same job but in a theatre nearer home, So was away from home much less, plus we had 3 children then, now almost 6!
He never sees them and we hardly talk any more. Maybe I am the one with the problem!!