to ask how much you/your partner drinks and how often?

[Babybrainx2]

I came down this morning to 4 empty pint cans in the kitchen. I knew he'd had 2, but he must have had another 2 after I went to bed (at 10.30) while he was playing computer games with his friends online.
We have a 3 year old and a 17 month old (it was agreed that I would be up with them this morning, I had a lie in yesterday so that's not the issue)
He drinks 3-4 times a week, sometimes more, sometimes less. I don't honestly know how much because he brews his own so it's not like I can monitor what goes in the shopping trolley. He rarely goes to the pub but that's because we can't afford it and have young children. I know he'd be in the pub constantly given the chance.

He rarely gets noticeably drunk, but he has a very high tolerance and can easily drink 8 pints before you'd notice. I rarely drink, just special occasions, so it seems a lot to me, but it's a "normal" amount for him as its how often he would drink with his step dad before we lived together.

I don't know if it is too much, or a socially acceptable amount that just seems a lot because I don't drink.

[Mammylamb]

We have a 2 year old. In the past two years I have drunk a few times, but no more than once a month and only one or two drinks. My husband has the very occasional beer