To think these kids were out of order?

[snowtippedmountain]

Hi! Looking for opinions as my big sis thinks I'm out of order and a grump!! Maybe I am... Don't get out much!!
I'm staying in a hotel for a couple of days as a birthday treat. It'd or posh, a Best Western chain hotel but mostly quiet.
Until last night, around 9.30-10.30 pm we were having drinks in the lounge area when 3 kids appeared. Aged I'd guess between 8 and 12.
They were lively, running about, doing handstands/cartwheels etc, fine, a bit annoying but fine, can't expect them to sit quietly all the time.
Then the parents (who'd been finishing a meal) came to join them and handed each of them a nerf gun.
That was it... Full of laser quest style play with screaming, shooting and ducking under/behind chairs and tables. Parents snapping pictures and laughing.
There were a few other groups trying to have a drink and most moved to the smallish bar area to avoid them.

I was really annoyed and thought they should have found more suitable games for their little dears to play.

Big sis, thinks it's their holiday too, none of our business.... Stop being a grump.

I am a grump, I've come to get away from kid noise as I'm a teacher of young kids and have young kids too so...

An ok thing to do and op is a gouch?
Or not something you'd be ok with?

Thanks?

[Aeroflotgirl]

No it's not acceptable, I would have complained to Hotel stAff.

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

YADNBU. Although you can't really blame the children for being out of order, clearly their parents are at fault for a) thinking that was any kind of ok, and b) giving them the sodding nerf guns in the first place! WHO does that, in a public area full of people drinking either alcohol or hot drinks? Atrocious behaviour/manners from the parents. Of course the children can't be expected to know any better if that's how their parents bring them up.

I'm just amazed no one from the hotel took issue with it, tbh.

[demirose87]

I would absolutely hate that. It's annoying and inconsiderate to other people. So no, yanbu.

[demirose87]

I would absolutely hate that. It's annoying and inconsiderate to other people. So no, yanbu.

[ewen1234]

I think I would be annoyed too!!

But I think I would be more annoyed at the parents than the kids. You would think they would have told them to tone it down a bit. Everyone deserves to enjoy their holiday/break but people enjoy holidays in different ways and this considered you still have to be considerate to the people around you.

Don't think you were being unreasonable for being annoyed!!

XXX

[BigSandyBalls2015]

Wow what kind of parents would think that is ok!
That would wind me up immensely. Rude and selfish. Completely inappropriate in a hotel.

[MotherofTerror]

YANBU. I would have complained to hotel staff. But to be honest you shouldn't have to - hotel should have stopped it straight away

[PoisonousSmurf]

So did the hotel staff tell them to stop?

[Jenny17]

At 9:30 they should've been in bed.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

Totally inappropriate. I’m surprised at your sister. You should have complained.

[thatdearoctopus]

The kids weren't out of order.

Although you can't really blame the children for being out of order

Er, yes you can! What is this MN obsession with refusing to believe that children are ever responsible for their own bad behaviour? I teach this sort of age, and they sure as hell know better than to behave like that in a public space, whether at school or not.

[maddiemookins16mum]

Awful behaviour. I really would not have appreciated 3 kids doing that at 10pm when trying to enjoy my (3rd) Baileys nightcap.

[youarenotkiddingme]

That would have pissed me off!

My ds (13) is currently running around outside with friends and nerf guns.
He knows it's a HUGE risk even daring to load and shoot one inside my house

[Berthatydfil]

Are the parents the same ones that brought a super soaker to a picnic.?

You are totally NBU.

[Thegiantofillinois]

Why can't you blame the kids? At 8 and 12 they're old enough to know what constitutes acceptable indoor behaviour.

[changemyname1]

can't expect them to sit quietly all the time

Why the hell not in a public bar/lounge area at that age?

I cannot understand how people like this get away with things like that

Because we are far to British to complain so just quietly moan to ourselves.

Agree with the others the hotel should have put a stop to it, and yes children at that age are capable of being responsible for the behaviour.

[thatdearoctopus]

There was a thread on here some months back, maybe longer, where the OP was conducting a business meeting in a conference room at a hotel, where a group of children kept banging on the doors/running in and out and disturbing the meeting.
There was a disturbingly large number of posters on the thread who seemed to think she was being unreasonable to object and that the children couldn't be blamed as "they're only young." The parents didn't give a shit either (unsurprisingly) and the hotel were limited in what they could/would do about it.

[GabsAlot]

th parents shouldnt hav given them nerf guns to play with

if noone ever dare says anything how will they know if theyre that ignorant

[gamerwidow]

Really poor parenting there. I don’t mind kids playing but these types of games belong outside.
Peoples right to do what they like ends where it starts to interfere with everyone else’s enjoyment.

[Aeroflotgirl]

The parents were out of order giving them.tbe need gun and encouraging this. I would have complained to staff not acceptable and not safe in such a closed environment. What if the need bullet hit someone in the eye, not so fun then is it!

[LakieLady]

YANBU.

I'd have complained to hotel management.

Or throttled the kids, and given their parents a damn good kicking.

DSS was a little shit when he was a kid, but even he wouldn't have behaved like that.

[snowtippedmountain]

Phew glad I'm not alone anyway!!

Hotel prides itself on being "child friendly" possibly? Not advertised as such though, but that could be why nothing was said.

No problem with kids being over excited and lively. I have a 5 year old who never sits still so he'd probably have wanted to move around.

Just Nerf guns?? A step too far.

Oh well home now and as people pointed out up thread, no point brooding!!

(Although may show big sis the thread )

[MaisyPops]

The hotel staff should have put an end to it without other guests having to complain.

What annoys me more isn't that the kids were being disruptive, but the fact the parents essentially instructed them to be disruptive and then laughed and took photos to encourage the behaviour.

I'm quite chilled about children being out places as long as they are well behaved (or if they aren't the parents do somethinh).

I get concerned how often on MN people think loud games on tablets, children running around cafes etc is acceptable because 'they are just kids'. At least this thread so far is full of people with common sense. You've restored my faith in humanity

[Aeroflotgirl]

I still would have complained, the adults are the ones paying, if it's an unpleasant experience we can take our money elsewhere. I would not have stood for that!

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

I'm usually the first to say "bad behaviour from the kids" but in this instance they've clearly never been given appropriate boundaries in a public place! How are they supposed to know instinctively that it's not ok, when their own parents GIVE them the bloody nerf guns and let them get on with it?
It's different in school - they have teachers telling them what to do. Their parents should be guiding them out of school in appropriate behaviour, and this pair of incompetents obviously didn't.