To think it is easy to keep your home clean?

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Providing you are able bodied obviously

Not better, overreaction, just different

I think people should do whatever makes them happy

Depends on the house!

Thanks Ghengis, yes probably being oversensitive as I'd never prioritise house cleaning over my own or family's health or happiness, if someone needs a rest it's fine. We're a team. I think that's the point of it isn't it, I used to be happy sitting in my own mess. However, as the children piled up etc I felt out of control and now feel happier with a routine. It's about how you feel happy

My parents had a pub that only had extra staff at weekends. There was 3 of us dcs. Our home was always immaculate. I guess it's just priorities and what you're happy with. shrugs

To add, I have one dc and am a SAHM. My house is always clean and tidy. I can't live with it any other way.

I couldn't agree more about the team bit R2G. Mine are still toddlers but I hope we'll all be pitching in like your family once they're a bit older!

We have a crappy old crumbling house, children, animals et al. Its bloody impossible..i keep it vaguely hygienic and occasionally i can spend a whole day and make it shiney-ish but the children and animals trapse in and some plaster drops off the wall and I realise we are all still alive and having fun is better before they fly. Will they remember a fun childhood or how clean the house was??!! Most friends seem to return....maybe some don't but life is short for wiping the lightbulbs too often 😁

Ha! i wish. No, sadly dh wont/cant prepare food. It's often a sensory thing but also a lazy thing too. Anyway, it's the way it is, and the amount of time i spend on food and cleaning is to do with my role as the 'house manager', apparently. He offers to eat out instead of me doing a packed lunch but he spends £600 a month on lunch if i wont make it. SO it's no real choice at all.

It’s hard keeping a house tidy regardless of whether you are disabled or not. Once you have children; I think you need to except a house won’t be like a show home.
However, as long as it’s clean it doesn’t matter if it’s not tidy.

The most frustrating thing for me is i actually love cleaning. My best job ever was when i was a cleaner. I'd love to switch on loud music and go at this house. But i can't. i have to keep skimming the surface.

I think keeping an average size property clean is relatively easy. Keeping it tidy on the other hand...

Mrs Koala - could you do the slow cooker for your last meal of the day?

Genghis - yes that's a tricky phase and I didn't have a dishwasher or dryer then. Its still a team but with more defined roles as the toddlers rule and may only go to one parent or the other for bedtime etc

Oh by the way ghenghis just remembered we got a cleaner once a month who did the bathroom mopping hoovering at that time as we didn't have the energy x

Your DH can't can't/won't prepare food, MrsKoala?? What would he do if you didn't do it for him; starve? I doubt it...
You're enabling him to be crap, so he is crap. Not surprising, really

he'd go out and buy it of course!

What's the for? You sound so accepting of him being a complete idiot. It wouldn't be amusing for anyone with an ounce of self respect, you know.
House manager my arse.

he's not an idiot. he's made it very clear what he will and wont do.

@MrsKoala how the hell have you managed to have so many children with this entitled waste of space? His attitude is not at all conducive to seduction, is it, now, never mind the thought that he'll just leave you to do all the shitwork.

Well, there's at least one idiot in that scenario, MrsKoala. Maybe the one who finds it hilarious?h

It may be easy (depending on circumstances), but does it matter? I see someone's already contributed the classic Quentin Crisp quote.

Maybe. Probably. Almost definitely.

You’re right OP: it is quite easy if you’re so inclined/ motivated. However, to me there’s always something depressing about seeing my house immaculately clean (by my own hand). On that rare occasion, I can appreciate fleetingly that for all of 5 minutes it is free of all [dog hair/dust/scuff marks/evidence that there are any DC or DH in my life]. And then I find myself regretting the time not spent walking my dog, making a mess with my children, getting an early night with my DH and feeling slightly resentful that people like you have made me feel that I ought to value a clean house above all these things.

Valsie a stuffed catnip one. If I try and tidy it away, I get cried at

Nope, not easy at all.
We've just had a cycle of working 40+ hours each, with a child and a new dog who chews,slobbers, destroys, pisses and or shits on everything.
I tell you, keeping a house is not easy in these circumstances.
I find the dishwasher is on multiple times per day, the washing machine is on multiple times per day, as is the hoover. It's not easy.
We are an untidy bunch us givemes though.

I have no children and no pets. I still struggle to be tidy. I hate putting things away.