to be fed up with a "friend" critisizing my pub recommendation ?

[scatterbrain]

So - friend A sends an email saying "why don't we all meet up Friday afternoon - maybe at a pub with a garden so kids can play" she suggests meeting in my village and asks me for recommendations !

friend B replies suggseting two pubs in my village.

I reply saying pub 1 is OK - but pub 2 is better as it is nicer and they have nicer wines, better play area, better clientele etc.

friend C then sends long rambly email about how I am being snobbish and pub 1 is far far better for kids in her opinion, and the wine is just as good actually etc

I then decide that friend C is too much work and decide I will not go - blaming work pressures. friend B also says she can't go - and now friend C has pulled out too and lovely friend A whose excellent plan it was it offended !

AIBU to want to slap friend C ??

Not totally unreasonable in my view. Unless she knows the area and the pubs better than you maybe ?

Is she normally like this ?

Oh yes - she always has to have the last word in everything - knows best about any subject and sends ridiculously long emails with all her opinions in ! I used to really like her - but she is one of those very "me me me" people - who seems to think everyone is desperate for her approval !

She hardly knows the area at all - I think she has been to the pub she was proposing once - we go there often.

Oh well - should be working - must move on - thanks for listening orvieto.

You all (apart from friend A) pulled out of the arrangement to meet up, so you're all equally to blame. Maybe friend C really likes the pub you slagged off or something. Also "better clientele" does sound rather Hyacinth Bucket, sorry.

I just feel sorry for friend A. Can something be salvaged? Even if you invite them to yours in a 'oh, work not so bad after all' kind of a way?

too many people worrying about too many other people's emotions.

If you want to see them / her that much doesn't really matter which pub. If you don't want to see them really nothing lost.

Ah but me and friend B pulled out BECAUSE friend C was being an arse !

I don't care if it does sound Hyacinth Bouquet tbh - one pub is nicer than the other and I would not take my dd to the other one !

Pub 1 is a dive frankly !

oh - I sound like a bit of a bitch there - was trying to help not patronise.

Am seeing friend A on Monday now - without B & C ! B is busy - C wasn't asked !

cool A sounds the nicest by far!

Well that's something at least. Don't blame you for not including friend C. I think it can be dangerous to get a set 'group' of friends because if something like this happens you feel like everyone has to be included or things will get worse. Hope you have fun on Monday

Yeag - friend A is lovely, friend B is OK, friend C needs demoting to "woman I know from school" and I of course, naturally am lovely too - with impeccable taste in oubs !

you should try tickles & pickles in Romsey.

independent shore shop..good fitting, never busy!

They do startrite and Geox.

how did that happen... replied to 1 message and ended up in here.. ignore me!

LOL - good shoe shop recommendation though Eve ! If only I were in Romsey !!

Drop C as she sounds like she's got issues and wants to be 'boss' of your group. She might just be insecure and wants to impress everyone with how knowledgeable she is.... but that sort of email would get on my tits as well.

Round robin arrangements never go to plan IMO - it's best if one person says meet at y at x time and then you avoid this sort of thing in future.

Eve, pmsl, you've just made my day.

Well bugger me - now friend B has emailed me (and ccing friends A and C too) saying that I am a bitch and caused the whole ting to fall apart !!!

I am so utterly fed up with this !! I am too old for it - it's like being back in the playground !!!

Grrrrr !!

Looks like I shall be friendless at this rate !

why dont you just take turns to choose the venue!

that's fair surely?

Everything by committee round here - and everyone has strong opinions !

Am quickly coming to conclusion that I need to get new friends !

this kind of thing used to really pee me off. i had a group of friends who i would regularly go out with and every single time i had to get a taxi down to their choice of venue, usually somewhere i hated. even when it was my birthday they point blank refused to go where I wanted to go. it was "sorry, but we HATE the bar you go to, its stuck up and so no-one will come out, sorry".

dont go out with them anymore, not really friends if they couldn't spend ONE night where i wanted to go!