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Original poster

to be pissed off at someone for "loving the holidays" when I'm stressed to high-heaven?

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RanToTheHills · 13/04/2007 14:15

Disucss. No? Well, I'm just a miserable cow then (with PMT)
Having been left with kids loads of the hols with dh working long hrs again while also struggling to fit my own work in and house/job hunt with a teethy baby and a sulky ds1. So yes, thanks for asking (not that the smug woman did ) but I'm having a fucking crap time, actually!

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RanToTheHills · 13/04/2007 14:25

ok,I must be really miserable then! I just hate it when people ram it down yr throat how much they adore their kids/love spendingtime wiht them..blah.blah. That's all very well if you're not trying to juggle this with everything else and have nowhere to live in 6 weeks! TBh,i'mutterly sick of mine by now and am really looking forward to the end of the holiday.How crap a mum am I? Come on judge me!

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mumblechum · 13/04/2007 14:26

I'm with you, RTTH. Without wanting to start a WOHM/SAHM debate (yawn), it always makes me annoyed when my SAHM friends are all relaxed and sunkissed and say how lovely and relaxing it is to have the kids off.

Me?? 13 weeks school holidays versus 4 weeks holidays for me = mega stress, juggling childcare/work/driving hundreds of miles to deliver ds to grandma etc.

I suspect if my boss gave me 13 weeks holiday a year I'd be a yummy mummy instead of a slightly hysterical harridan.

Tinker · 13/04/2007 14:29

Oh no, I'm with you RTTH - and I've elected to work term-times only! This one hasn't been bad - have done quite a bit, weather's been good etc. But I do slightly resent that my holidays are theirs as well. Where's my break???

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RanToTheHills · 13/04/2007 14:32

glad it's not just me,feel slightly cheered
Itjust really grated somehow when,like you both,I'vebeen doing a juggling act allholidays. How do they look so relaxed though? don't think I would be if I were with mine all hols and at home all the time as well!

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Judy1234 · 13/04/2007 14:42

Why are you having to juggle it rather than the children's father? That doesn't seem very fair.

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RanToTheHills · 13/04/2007 14:44

fairness doesn't come into it,currently. He works a lot at client sites nationally/overseas onf/t basis, I'm p/t office/home-based, it's how it's worked out.

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kslatts · 13/04/2007 14:58

I work full-time, but would love to spend all the school holidays with the kids. I hate coming to work knowing they are with dh (he works shifts) or my mum (who is their cm).

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RanToTheHills · 13/04/2007 15:09

that's good. I guess it may be a case of the grass is always greener. I just feel overwhelmed wiht everything atm though,mainly due to having too many huge decisions to make all at the same time- where to live, whether to changejobs or give up work-all while living in a new place where I have no-one to whom I can have a good moan. I therefore have little tolerance for hearing idle chat tbh.

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DimpledThighs · 13/04/2007 15:13

if it's bad it is really fucking bad
when it's nice it's okay

holidays are crap sometimes. Monday soon though.

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RanToTheHills · 13/04/2007 15:17

so true,DT! I wish more people were as honest!

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Judy1234 · 13/04/2007 16:50

Don't you think your husband has a easier deal though and couldn't you work full time, have the trips away and make him do all the dull dross and home stuff?

OrmIrian · 13/04/2007 16:56

Sorry but 'I'm loving the holidays'...

A few days off work, chilled children (it took a week but they are finally relaxed, rested and being lovely to each other), chilled me as I haven't done school run in manic mode for 2 weeks. Bliss.

Sorry that you are having a hard time though

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RanToTheHills · 13/04/2007 17:07

thanks, good you're enjoying it.Mine aren't chilled though in & out of childcare all hols so not so carefree for them.

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sunnysideup · 13/04/2007 17:11

Can you do most of the house/job hunting from the internet or papers when the kids are in bed? At least that's one thing then that you don't need to juggle with trying to keep them happy.

Are you working from home - is that why you are struggling to fit your own work in?

You do have too much on, no wonder you are not enjoying the holidays. I just wonder if some of it can be allocated to the evenings, which I know cuts into your time but would mean that at least you only have to concentrate on the kids in the day.

And make sure that next school holiday it's your DH's turn - make him book a week's leave now!

Iota · 13/04/2007 17:11

May I just really rub it in please

Not only am I enjoying the 2 week break, but dh has been on holiday as well for all of it except today, and we have had a lovely family time for the last 2 weeks

Thank you

DimpledThighs · 13/04/2007 17:50

Iota- in the nicest possible way....

...I'm not interested!!!!!

coppertop · 13/04/2007 18:07

If you see me smiling during the holidays it will be through gritted teeth. I've obviously been counting the days till they end too often as ds1 now tells me how many days are left.

Good luck with the house/job hunt.

daisy1999 · 13/04/2007 18:09

loving the holidays too

WideWebWitch · 13/04/2007 18:10

RTTH, I love the holidays but that's mainly because I work ftoth the rest of the time and it's therefore a novelty. I've been a sahm and couldn't do it again.

WideWebWitch · 13/04/2007 18:11

Oh and it's easy for me to say I love the holidays because a) I have a cleaner b) I have very few chores to do c) no house/job hunt and, as I mentioned before, d) it's a novelty to be with them ft and I can therefore enjoy it and not get stressed about any of the borin/hard bits.

Sympathy.

obimomkanobi · 14/04/2007 09:09

The problem is that children nowadays are too fecking demanding.

'Can we go here?' Can we go there?' Can we have a sleepover?' 'Can we have a really annoying friend round for tea?'

What the feck is wrong with sitting down and reading a fecking book? Or watching TV? Is there any need for 24 hour a day bouncing round shouting and fighting?

Roll on Tuesday. Is is too early for wine?

kimi · 14/04/2007 09:18

Um at the risk of being shot down in flames...
I love the holidays, Have been having a great time with my sons, been out for days, had visitors over the Easter weekend and rally had a lovely time.
And Ii will be sad to see them go back to school Monday (although I am looking forward a little bit to meeting my friend for our weekly child free coffee)
But it is only 65 school days till the summer holidays

Miaou · 14/04/2007 09:31

Hmm yes, I'm in the "enjoying the holidays" camp - but then (at the moment, until next week) I am a SAHM and not trying to juggle work/childcare/big decisions etc. Did the person you were talking to know your personal circumstances? I have to say I would be guilty of just saying "Oh I like having all the kids at home" without thinking that it might irritate the other person - however I would listen very sympathetically and empathise with your woes - been there done that in the past!

I think when you are frazzled and stressed out then you have less patience with those who don't share your situation - just a fact of life really.

deepinlaundry · 14/04/2007 12:57

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dmo · 14/04/2007 14:04

well i work 55 hrs per week as a childminder
i love/hate school hols
in a way its good as i dont have to stick to a timetable but then i have 9-10 children everyday
had a good week this week as the weather has been fab and i'm off now for a week so its just dh and my 2 boys for a week bliss