To want a cleaner ?

[Mumof41987]

I work 40hrs per week and have 4 dcs. We live in a HUGE house and it's really becoming too much for me to manage with my working hours . My mil thinks it's disgusting to hire a cleaner and constantly tells me "in my day we had to get on with things " ( she was a sahm to 1 child ) . I am very fortunate that I could afford a cleaner but she makes me feel so lazy for even thinking of hiring one that I haven't so far . I want to be a parent that is present and fun but lately all I do every weekend is clean this damn house , I want to spend time with my kids and feel a cleaner would be a worthwhile purchase ? AIBU to hire one ? Dh works long hours also and helps where he can but all we do every weekend is catch up on washing and cleaning !

Get a cleaner! Best thing we ever did (2 DC, DH works away 5 days a week and I'm on Mat Leave).

One way to look at it is that you are contributing to the local economy by employing someone's services.

Get a cleaner.

I work 40 hours per week with only 1 child. I have a cleaner. You don’t get a medal for struggling.

I have only recently employed a cleaner and now I think why the hell didn't I do it sooner. My life is so easier now I am not trying to do the cleaning on top of everything else. I am contemplating getting a gardener next

I love my cleaner, best thing I ever did!

I work ft, as does the husband and I want to spend my weekends with my family having fun not nagging about why no one is helping me clean!

She used to come 3 hours every other week but I'm now every week and can't believe I coped before... we have 3 bathrooms to clean and most of down stairs needs mopping- she's a godsend!

She's like part of the family and gets lovely Christmas and birthday presents from us. I'd be devastated if she couldn't come any more!

Get the cleaner!!

Will your kids remember how well you scrubbed a toilet, or will they remember the games you played with them, the homework help, the chats... if you can afford a cleaner then I think it’s a great thing for your family, not laziness! You should feel ZERO guilt.

Get a cleaner.

Tell Mil that you're getting a cleaner to give yourself time to arrange the flowers.

FTSOF - for the sake of fuck.

Me and DH work long hours - cleaning gets done and grass gets cut, ironing gets done, bogs brushed etc - by the cleaner and the grass chaps. Life is too damn short.

Get a cleaner - get two - get the beds changed, ironing done and floors hoovered. Get it all done - why - because no one gives a hoot - do it. Do it tomorrow. Best thing we ever did - all we argue over now is emptying the dishwasher.

Get one. She’s clearly a wally. You don’t even need to tell her!

God, just get a cleaner, who gives a fuck what she thinks? For the record I’m a SAHM to 2 children (one school age, one at pre school two days a week) and I live in an average sized house - I have a cleaner. Couldn’t care less whether anyone thinks I’m lazy.

I have one child, don't work and have 3 hours a week. Life's too short,
We don't splurge on holiday , presents or clothes but a relaxing tidy house matters to me and I find it tedious!

Do it OP!

Get a cleaner. Why does she even need to know?
Side note: my BIL and SIL have a cleaner and both of them work possibly a day or two a month (and no children), but my MIL thinks their house is so disgusting that she demanded they have a cleaner and MIL pays for it 😂. (I tried giving up cleaning to see if she'd do the same for us but not a chance despite me and DH actually having a child and jobs)

I’d love a cleaner! Have you said to your MIL ‘yes but you were at home and only had one dc’? She’s bloody rude. Your dh should be standing up for you.

I work part time and have no one else at home and I have a cleaner. Enjoy it

Just me and the hubby and we have a cleaner once a fortnight. It's awesome. Best money I spend every month. Did others opinions, life's to short for that and cleaning 😂

I have two kids and work part time and had a cleaner.
When I had no kids I had a cleaner.
When I wasn't working (on maternity) I had a cleaner.
Get a cleaner..

Get a cleaner!

Why should you have to justify it? You choose what to spend your money on. Tell her you're helping the local economy 😉

I just posted this on another cleaner related thread but how do you find a cleaner? Online, word of mouth, big company, single person? How?!

This is an absolute no-brainer.

Get a cleaner OP.

YABU to even discuss this with your MIL. None of her business.

God I hate all that in my day shit. Yes dear, make your life a little harder than it has to be. Just because I did.

Get a cleaner, life’s too short. I’ve had one for over twenty years since my mid twenties.

You need a cleaner.

A cleaner cleans because they need the work.

Win win, IMO.

Get a cleaner.

I had one when I was single and lived alone in a 2 bed flat! Still have one now I've got DH and DD and love in a 5 bed house.

What on earth has it got to do with her? My God yes get a cleaner

If your MIL comments, just ask her “oh but how did DFIL manage to do all the week’s cleaning at the weekend?” She would have no choice but to say “well, I was at home so it was all done”. You can then say “well I’m not at home so shall I ask the pixies to do it? Or should I pay a cleaner?”

Silly mare.

No brainee for you, OP.