to want to move into a place that suits US not my FIL?

[marieg76]

We have sold our house and as our buyers want us out ASAP, we haven't found anywhere to buy yet. We have found a 2 bed flat that looks perfect - right location etc. As we are expecting DC in October, it will be our last chance at having a posh flat so we're quite excited about it.

FIL has a dog that normally stays with us when he is up in our neck of the woods. SIL is getting married in June and as we want to be in a flat, we have said to FIL that it's best that the dog goes into kennels this time as we won't have a garden for him to be in. FIL is now refusing to come to the wedding as he doesn't want to put the dog into kennels. Nothing wrong with the dog at all.

We feel that we're being backed into a corner and being forced to move into a place that we don't want to be in order to accommodate FIL's needs this one time! DH's sisters don't like pets so won't want dog staying with them (we always have to deal with it).

Extraordinary man. Don't give it another thought. That would be my advice.

Thank you ladies - am feeling extremely a little overwhelmed at the moment and just don't need the aggro.
Just looking at my messages and I see that I'm painting him as being totally horrible - he's not really horrible just has very poor social skills and wants his own way all of the time - oops, there I go again!

Why can't he stay at the SIL's house...?

He can't stay there the night before the wedding as he'll just be under people's feet when they are getting ready in the morning (he would fully expect to be waited on regardless of what is happening around him).

Surely that's their problem ( or his rather)not yours? Are tey not capable of telling him to fend for himself?

Enjoy your lovely flat and ignore him. Unless he is offering to pay for the 6 month rental he really gets no say at all.

I spoke with DH about it on Saturday having got myself all worked up. He was super - said that it's absolutely nothing for us to worry about. We have carried the burden for years and now that we are carrying something far more important, other people can choose to do whatever they like. We are going to just focus on ourselves for once.

Thanks to all you MNers for your support and common sense - it's hard to see the wood for the trees sometimes.

good for you. Enjoy your flat.