With dh's hobby friendship circle. It's their Christmas get together and partners are invited for drinks for a 7.30pm start. They didn't canvass for dates, just said it's on x day for those who can make it.
I'm not keen on socialising with people I either don't know at all or have only met once at the best of times, but would do it for dh's sake as other partners are going. However, it's dd's first birthday and we'd need a babysitter. I know she'll be in bed by 7/7.30pm anyway, but I'd sort of envisaged just chilling out in the evening, reminiscing about the past year, putting her to bed calmly etc. not frantically running around trying to get ready (after a busy day - family are all coming over) and leaving her (and our ds) with a babysitter. I know she won't know anything about it and won't remember her first birthday, but I fully acknowledge this is more about me. I did suggest to dh that he should go out anyway on his own, but understandably he'd like me to go too. He also feels similarly that he'd like a full day with dd and family, without additional pressure, and would have preferred a different day if they'd asked. But I can tell he's torn as he does like these people and wants to be sociable. He also doesn't go out with friends very often. I'm not sure if I'm being selfish and should just go, or whether there's a compromise.