To miss the single life

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Obviously i love and adore him and love being with him!

But surely i cant be the only one on here who misses the single life?

The thrill of heading out for the night not knowing who you might meet
Meals for one
Total silence
Sunday morning waking up and no discussion or pondering just do exactly as i please with no compromise or letting someone know
Making decisions without taking someone else into account
Having my space exactly as i want, no debate or compromise

Its not him and i dont want to leave him just - man the single lifehad its upsides!

Amirite?

Yep, I love my DH, but the constant negotiating and compromising can be exhausting. Or I may just be knackered with a 4 month old

I don't miss it at all, I love having someone to share my highs and lows with and someone who's there no matter what. But each to their own

I miss it too.
Reclaiming a bit of my old life with a night away with my friend in a couple of weeks. Cannot wait !

I'm single and the opposite. Hate being alone miss a relationship the though of dating fills me with dread.

YANBU. I don’t want to be single, but there are times I miss the freedom (to do nothing, as much as to do anything) of being on my own.

I get you op. I often do. I used to love the chase/dating scene.
DC and dh are my works but it isn't easy.

I used to have more money and fun. But I know in my heart I wouldn't go back to singleton life .

World

Yes definitely. But I don't want to be without him. Like you say, sometimes I just wanna do what I wanna do, watch what I wanna watch, eat what I wanna eat. The compromise gets tiring.

I'll never get fed up of cuddles though :D

YANBU. Those things are exactly why I'm quite content remaining single at this point in my life!

Yabu.

What if you were stuck with it

YANBU, I know some couples who are blissfully happy together but for me being single is heaven!

My single life does not consist of meals for one, total silence, deciding what to do etc I'm content enough with it - or too set in my ways now.

I find I tend to look back and just remember the good bits!

I used to like dating, going out and getting chatted up, nights out with my friends, etc etc.

In reality, I also used to be bored out of my head on a Sunday afternoon with nothing to do, was petrified that I'd be alone forever, spend too much time wondering if he'd text me back and if not, why not?! Etc

It's easy to look back on things with rose tinted spectacles. I know I'm actually much happier now.

jessicathecat some of us aren't "stuck with it", we choose to be single as we are happier with freedom from another human's BS in our lives every single day. I'm fecking grateful I'm not stuck with another adult in the house all the time. I have plenty of adult interaction, when I want it.

I don't blame you - it's freaking amazing! I do what I want, when I want, see who I want, have sex with who I want. Everything on my terms. Silence unless I choose otherwise, no compromising, being able to make only myself happy and not feel somehow guilty for it.

Have had a couple of LTRs - good ones with good men. It wasn't for me. And more importantly, as a result, I wasn't making my partners as happy as they deserved to be.

It's unusual though: I date, and people assume I'm dating so I can find a relationship and "the one". In reality I do it because, well: meeting different and interesting people; discovering new bars; exploratory sex - what's not to like?

I don't miss dating a d really do not think I could be added with it. But, I find the constant compromise and negotiations that come with being married to my husband utterly exhausting. He has gone to the football tonight and the kids are in bed. I've spent a blissful evening drinking wine and watching Criminal Minds whilst snuggling the cat. I miss having time for me more than anything.

Goodness, I really do not miss being single. Having to deal with the plethora of creeps who thought you were fair game as you weren't attached.... No thank you!!!

@ComtesseDeSpair

I actually think I may not be cut out for it either. Sure, i love feeling loved and cuddles too. But i love just pleasing myself more.

I do, however, enjoy the occasional evening when he goes away and I can watch my shit tv and get the bed to myself!!!! That is bliss!

I never really had it. Was with my exh from age 19, never actually lived alone, went from parents house, to uni house share, to living with him. After we split I still had the two DD’s so never on my own really.
I do sometimes wonder if I would enjoy it and I suspect I would (but I wouldn’t swap the DD’s for the world obvs).

I’m recently single and while I love all the things you’ve listed it can be lonely - I miss affection and having someone who’s ‘got my back’ as they say. Dating can be exciting but also hard work and there are a LOT of weirdos and losers around, online anyway. That said having a bed to myself and answering to nobody are brilliant, I just think there’s good and bad in either scenario.

I miss being able to skip dinner and just have cheese and wine instead

I think you can have the best of both worlds, if you set the bar high at the start of a relationship.

I miss my single house! I had a gorgeous little 1 bed house, perfect little sanctuary for 1. Then a big hairy man moved in and then a baby appeared, it was a tad crowded! Now we’ve moved and there is now 4 of us. But I still sometimes crave the silence and stillness and the weekend mornings in my little house. Wish we could’ve afforded to keep it as a bolt hole, like Carrie did with her apartment in Sex & the City. Except I wouldn’t share it with anyone!