Just because I've said I need something doesn't mean I want you to buy it for me.

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So not a bad problem to have but I have very well meaning parents and inlaws. Every time we are chatting about anything and I mention we need something, they both go out and buy it, and lots of it. I casually mentioned that I hadn't bought my DS a snowsuit yet and suddenly, I have three snowsuits, 2 padded coats, about 10 pairs of mittens, some wellies, 4 pairs of thick boots and a new blanket. I love the fact that they are so involved but after nearly a year it's taking some of the fun out of doing it myself (I know, that's ridiculous of me) but also, I don't have room for all this stuff! It happens with everything! I have two highchairs as well as a travel one, I had two pushchairs, I had ordered him a personalised reusable advent calendar, which was quite expensive, but DM and MiL both bought him fabric ones anyway.
I'm partially annoyed that they're getting too carried away with buying stuff, then I feel guilty because I know how lucky we are, then in worried about him being spoiled!
I know IABU but I feel like I'm gunna end up on an episode of hoarders soon with all this gear!

I know exactly how you feel! My step mum and dad are the same with my youngest 2 and it got to the point where I felt I was “missing out” on what were (to us) important firsts.

Before my 4 month old was born I hadn’t really bought much clothing because we had no idea how big he would be (4th baby, all mega different sizes!). As soon as he was born SM went out and bought a whole wardrobe of clothes up until 6 months, a bouncer chair, toys and other bits.

They were (before I said something) in the process of choosing my 2 year olds first proper bed too.

Sell all the extra stuff. They'll stop buying if they see you are selling it on. Use the money to get things you want.

Have you not mentioned that 6 bedroom house yet you need?

This would drive me bonkers. My family are similar, very excited and have more money now than when we were kids do want to spoil DD who is an only grandchild.

I had to have words and it got a lot better. However I mentioned my iPad had broken the other day and DD watches to on it sometimes. They offered to buy toddler DD a new one, not me I might add, but DD. I laughed and said thank you that's very kind but don't be so ridiculous.

So the only thing you can do is say something. Saying "oh we've got too many if these now, would you like to take it back to the shop or should I take it to charity?" Will work well.

Essentially they're getting a buzz out of it and you need to cut the buzz off. Setting up a standing order to a bank account would be far more helpful but much less fun for them