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Pyjamas at hotel breakfast

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flyingpigsinclover · 23/10/2017 10:22

We were staying overnight in a hotel last night (after a small domestic emergency so had left the house in a hurry), over breakfast this morning a family of five came down for breakfast with all the children in pyjamas and dressing gowns and barefoot. they were aged about eight to fifteen or so.

Aibu to think that this is not really acceptable?

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avamiah · 25/10/2017 00:38

I personally wouldn't leave the house without a shower and and my hair done and my lipstick and mascara on but that's me .I don't judge people and it wouldn't bother me if they came down to breakfast in their pjs.They have paid for their bed and breakfast so let the hotel deal with it.
I'm usually too bothered about what's on the breakfast buffet to be honest.

KarmaStar · 25/10/2017 01:11

I've worked in hotel restaurants for years.never seen a family do this.one weekend we had a couple come down for breakfast in their bedroom attire although hers was very flimsy and nearly see through.they spent most of the time making out with each other and didn't stop when I served breakfast.was quite embarrassing although they appeared to like the attention.each to their own I guess .

Teddyinglasses · 25/10/2017 01:18

Standards are dropping and whilst people argue that others 'just find anything to moan about' they will continue to drop. I don't want to see people in their pjs at breakfast, on the school run or in the supermarket queue. For heavens sake just get dressed! My own dcs were expected to pull on jogging bottoms and a tshirt/jumper when they got up, it wasn't difficult. If I spend good money on a weekend away it's because I want to enjoy it, I am no more important than anyone else and they are no more important than me. I don't want to share my weekend with someone who can't be bothered to follow the rules of etiquette. So they'll be at breakfast in Pjs, their children will be running about shrieking and sticking their fingers in the food. Forgive me for being a snob, but I'll go to Warner's where there are no children and the adults only know how to behave.

Abbylee · 25/10/2017 02:28

Ah, toomanypaws, this is why country living is blissful ...weeding in wellies and pajamas...

Toadinthehole · 25/10/2017 04:08

See that happy, relaxed family at the corner table?

That's the Toad family, laughing at all the skankers in their PJs.

Chingchok · 25/10/2017 04:28

Maybe I've been away too long, but I find it surprising and kind of funny that so many people are so deeply bothered by this. Pyjamas at breakfast is pretty unremarkable here in Thailand. Just had breakfast at the resort we are currently staying at, where our seven year old was pretty much the only child NOT in pyjamas. The ones that are dressed are in swimsuits. As for the adults, most are fully dressed it's true, but if so you can guarantee they are also showered, hair styled and full selfie-ready makeup on. Tailored shorts and evening wear are perfectly usual breakfast attire. Definitely several steps up from your jeans or leggings! Nobody bats an eyelid at the people in pyjamas, though. We're all on holiday and everybody relaxes differently. And I agree that there's no reason why pyjamas or bare feet affect other guests in any way whatsoever. Live and let live seems to apply here.

CredulousThickos · 25/10/2017 06:40

There’s pyjamas and pyjamas though. I’d probably blink a bit at someone (adult) in a pair of Winnie the Pooh pyjamas with a milk stain down the front and a threadbare arse.

I don’t wear pjs to bed (unless it’s really cold) so for me they are ‘pottering around at weekends’ clothes, thick cotton bottoms and a slouchy jumper over my vest. I’d probably wear my Uggs to breakfast .

It ain’t stylish but it sure is comfy.

southeastdweller · 25/10/2017 06:49

I’ve seen this before occasionally and yes I judged. It’s the same as going to the shops in your PJ’s - pure laziness. Get some self-respect for Gods sake. I’d expect hotel staff to say something but they never do.

Toadinthehole · 25/10/2017 06:53

I can think of even worse things.

4 years ago I was visiting England and saw a grown man in a cafe wearing a huge onesie. A cow onesie, I think.

My UK companions seemed to think this quite normal.

Is it normal?

MaisyPops · 25/10/2017 07:20

Honestly I’d far rather see a happy dishevelled family in pjs, having relaxing family time and giving zero fucks, than an uptight instamum with full slap on at 8am, snarling at her impeccably turned out family to pose while she ‘artfully’ snaps her coffee and shoes for her seven followers on social media.
Well, this thread started getting full of bizarre arguments.

It's not think it's fine to wear pyjamas in public because don't know you it is SO difficukt getting dressed on a morning, or be an arrogant image conscious person who is more bothered about social media than holidaying with your children.

This thread has been eye opening (and totally explains the school run in pyjamas thing). I had no idea people would seriously get annoyed defending wearing pyjamas in public as if pyjama wearers have such a more difficult life than the rest of us who manage to dress appropriately.

MaisyPops · 25/10/2017 07:22

toad
It depends. I have known people wear onesies if they have had a fancy dress event.

Otherwise no it is not normal to be out in a onesie. It is in the same category of pyjamas at a hotel breakfast, doing the school run in you pyjamas etc.

Or to rephrase, not normal to the vast majority of people. Someone defending the army of scruffs will be along soon to say it's perfectly normal to wear a onesie in public.

Growingboys · 25/10/2017 07:27

Really slovenly. I’ve never seen this but would totally judge.

MaisyPops · 25/10/2017 07:37

growing
Oh it happens. I drive past a school on my way to work.
I could just about avoid judging if i saw someone in pyjama bottoms, shoes and a hoody/jumper or a coat (who knows maybe there was an emergency) but nope, it's all about pyjamas, slippers and dressing gowns as coata

user1467963239 · 25/10/2017 07:39

Firstly, leave them alone it sounds as though they didn't harm anyone in the process. I love breakfast in my pjs. The only concern I have is their wee tootsies; alone with not a sock or slipper. But it's not our problem when one of the wee ones step on somethibg sharp.

user1467963239 · 25/10/2017 07:41

A super reply! Love zero fucks part. Wish people would be so judgy on one another, I say let them be.

MaisyPops · 25/10/2017 07:45

user
People are judgey because they are choosing to wear nightwear in public.

A bit like if I turned up to work wearing my sports crop top. There's nothibg wrong with thr item of clothing but it's not right for the setting.

Same as I wouldn't turn up to a wedding in activewear. Nothibg wrong with activewear, but if I wore it to a wedding people would (rightly) judge

ewen1234 · 25/10/2017 07:57

I think people should just keep things simple!!! Ignore what everyone else is doing (unless it concerns you directly) and get on with your own life!! ??

Why be concerned about anyone else's business??

southeastdweller · 25/10/2017 07:59

Me and many others on this thread just don't want to see slobby behaviour, don't you get it?

Abbylee · 25/10/2017 08:02

I think that a line needs to be drawn between a casual, family friendly hotel vs. A nice hotel that would be considered a get-away.

If we were driving and this was a midway stop, (2xs/yr, 13 hour drive, i didn't care what they wore! They might have worn pjs, gone swimming while i packed, changed after swim and then it was another 7 hours on the road)wearing breakfast stained clothes all day would be uncomfortable and i am sure that pyjama police would also be snickering in superiority at milk or jam stained clothes heading to the car at checkout.

Honestly, Nudie sleepers: have you thought about how often you are not sleeping on freshly cleaned sheets at hotels? Comforters are not washed everytime and sometimes hotel workers use empty rooms for sex (imagine trying to explain to my 4 yo why the sheets looked like a hairy dog had rolled and urinated on what had seemed clean bed until we turned the bed down.) Not to mention bed bugs!

Shoes are specifically designed for safety. We bring slippers or flipflops for the rooms. No unwanted fungus please!

But if bodies are modestly covered up, snickering at the pyjama clad family, if well behaved and happy while eating is a bit formal and pompous.

I am a good mother, i have tried to give my dc a strong moral background and judging others on "before the day begins" attire shows a lack of kindness or understanding. I seldom wear make up. Mascara mostly. Judge me for that too? If my big claim to humanity was dressing children before breakfast at a family hotel, i would not be a person that i would like as a friend unless i was less judgemental in the rest of my associations...But i would not be. Would i?

Some dc are dressing nightmares, sometimes people need to eat for health reasons.so getting bf over quickly is important, there are endless possibilities besides laziness and moral inferiority.

So laugh if you feel better and superior but children are sick, frightened at new places or maybe JUST enjoying their morning and minding their own business . Novel concept that seems.

MaisyPops · 25/10/2017 08:04

I seldom wear make up. Mascara mostly. Judge me for that too?
Whether someone chooses to wear makeup or not is not comparable to wearing pyjamas in public.

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 25/10/2017 08:11

Wouldn’t do it myself and my children wouldn’t want to do it either, but really a whole thread judging people again about something trivial thst doesn’t affect you and that you don’t necessarily know the reasons for, that’s worse manners imo. OK it might irritate me a bit, but it’s not something worth discussing with all and sundry.

MsHarry · 25/10/2017 08:14

It wouldn't ruin my day or occupy my head for more than a few seconds but boy yes I would judge. It's just unnecessary, impolite, self indulgent and inappropriate to teach children that it's ok to wear pjs in a hotel restaurant.

southeastdweller · 25/10/2017 08:21

What possible other reasons could there be todo it apart from being a lazy slob?

Lweji · 25/10/2017 08:42

Whether someone chooses to wear makeup or not is not comparable to wearing pyjamas in public.

The way some people dress in public is way worse than wearing pjs. Grin

I'm surprised workmen are allowed anywhere with their stained clothes.

Lweji · 25/10/2017 08:42

Whether someone chooses to wear makeup or not is not comparable to wearing pyjamas in public.

The way some people dress in public is way worse than wearing pjs. Grin

I'm surprised workmen are allowed anywhere with their stained clothes.

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