Detention

[rushgirl28]

I was disgusted when I found my boy got detention because he didn't get enough spellings right in a test.And we worked hard on

We set targets for spelling tests but don't set a detention for not meeting the target and I am a detention happy meanie.

Your posts are fine and perfectly easy to read and understand. Totally agree with you that punishments for bad behaviour should not be used to punish perceived lack of academic ability and should be raised with the school if it is the actual reason he got detention. However it's really hard to learn spellings by just spelling out loud. He needs to write them down to help him recognise spelling patterns etc.

Yanbu op. Kids are given detention for getting less than 8/10 in their spelling test in my kids primary school and I disagree with it. Luckily my kids are good spellers (with relatively little effort) but I know of 2 friends kids, one of whom is being assessed for dyslexia, who put a lot of work into learning the spellings each day and are still in detention every week. They dread test day and get very anxious and upset about it. I don't think detentions should be used for low attainment if kids are trying their best.

Miss that's great your ds can learn at get over 50 with effort.
My ds and I spend ages working on his spelling - but he just does not get it.
Punishment for things someone can't do is cruelty imo. And if he gets punished for spellings then pe teacher should be punishing for his muscular problems which prevent him from achieving things or his English teacher should be punishing my him for his language issues.

I agree with punishing lack of effort -'for example time spent doing work properly because you didn't bother the first time. But not for something a student can cannot do.

That's why I,m going to talk to the school I never take my son's word for it lol.He gets things wrong
That's a good approach to take, to seek clarification first. I do that too and that way you don't end up with egg on your face if the child has got the wrong end of the stick! Do they not write in the text what it's for?

i totally agree with you. Is it possible that because he is verbally strong they thought he hadnt put the effort into learning them? i do think you need to speak to the school to get to the bottom of it. having got 3 through secondary i would start by asking them why he had detention. im not saying that he isnt telling the truth but maybe start there.

Complain like hell. It's not fair to have his spirit broken by a teacher who set selling that are too difficult. The work is supposed to be "differentiated" which means suitable for the child. If he can't get his head round the spellings it's worth working with the school to see if he can go into a different class/group. If you think that the spellings are fairly easy he may need extra help, which the school are supposed to give him. Ask about "support" ie time one to one or in group with TA.

Yes, duchess, go me. I challenged a ridiculous situation. I made it clear that I support the behaviour policy, but not the bullying of children who aren’t high academic achievers. I relieved the anxiety of a child already going through the mill, who is having counselling, has just been assessed as having visual stress issues and thus has additional needs of her own.

So damn fucking right go me.

The two times she forgot homework in the last four years, however, she took the detentions on the chin and I just shrugged my shoulders as it was her own damn fault.

What score did he get?

I think your posts are perfectly easy to read too op. A few mistakes that usually come from typing too fast on a mobile. Hardly consistent with broken English.
What did the school say?
Maybe the school has set spellings they know he is more than capable of doing and by him not doing it shows them that he just isn't trying hard enough.
Has he always learned his spellings this way? I know my dc's would never retain spellings this way. They always copy, cover, write, writing them down several ways is usually the best way, but everyone learns differently.