How do you deal with stress?

[TheRealGussieFinkNottle]

Would love to find out, as I'm pretty rubbish!!

Things that stress me out:

• if I manage my time poorly (I'm trying to get better at this, but have had a few hairy situations when I've had lots of important things to do and not very much time to do them in!!!)
• London public transport (the Tube drives me a bit crazy )
• kind of related to time management, but a bit different - if I've suddenly been given things to do and have to do them to a tight deadline.
• general feelings of anxiety and uncertainty (e.g. over my current job situation, which is ad-hoc hours, and how I can reply to anyone (normally, close relatives, who do mean well, but still...!) who ask me what my plans are for getting a full-time job and never seem to be satisfied with my answer(!!!))

All tips welcome :)

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I go to yoga and Pilates
I walk regularly every day. (I drive to work early, park in the car park and walk around the local streets / parks / green spaces for half an hour before work, so it cannot be crowded out of my day).
I have easy to wear go-to work outfits

I am very stressed about work at the moment, if it gets too bad at the weekend, I send myself an email with all the stuff I am worrying about not remembering.

My mantra is 'this too, shall pass'.....
I focus on the many good things in my life
I use nice shower gels every day, so I start the day with a little treat.
I avoid / limit time with negative, moany people who suck the joy out of life
I do stuff outside of work, to keep my work life stuff in proportion

I practice the 'broken window' technique of managing my life. (basically I keep my life in little compartments, like a window with many panes, then if one window pane is smashed, the whole window is not broken).

Ah formerbabe, from your reply - “eat” - and name am guessing I am sailing in the same boat as you, I used to be slim and pretty, not trying to be boastful here, but am now massively overweight and ashamed of how horribly different I am now to how I used to be, can’t stop comfort eating

I really like your ‘broken window’ analogy Chottie.

I take Fluoxetine, go for long walks and swim. I also sing in a choir. I’m avoiding music at the moment because it’s a bit triggering, so I listen to Ted Talks podcasts. When I’m feeling overwhelmed, I write down all the things that I’m worrying about and it helps me to order my thoughts.

Thank you NextIndia

I sing, as loud as I need too. Nothing releases stress like a good sing. Plus as a side effect of a stressful few years, I can sing beautifully now.

When I'm stressing/obsessing about one thing, I visualise writing it down on a piece of paper and staring at it until it becomes trivial.

And to de-stress for the moment I stretch my arms up and stretch my arms/back to release some tension.

Hope this might help someone.

Exercise and cleaning are my main methods of de stressing. When I'm exercising I wear headphones and have my music on loud. I can feel the tension and stress pouring out of me.

On really bad days I also massively comfort eat. It makes me sad but sometimes I just feel so bad I can't stop myself.

Yes, I eat too but also find getting out and about in fresh air helps. I take my dog for walks anywhere there are trees, hardly any people and I just breathe.....

I play quizzes on Fun Trivia. It keeps my mind off what I am worrying about.

I sometimes use a colouring in app. Again, it forces you to pay attention to the matter at hand.

I love reading and music and sometimes that distracts me, but sometimes even those activities don't cut it.

I am tired of anxiety. On the whole it is pointless and futile exercise. I am worried about a work issue and have been for the last few weeks. But this weekend I just forgot about it. I just can't be arsed to worry about it anymore. If it happens, it happens. I have dealt with loads of crap in my life, I am not sure why I am a worrier, I always cope. I will again.

Oh, walking, especially in natural surroundings like woods, by rivers etc, definitely helps.

Swimming and yoga. Exercise is great at helping with stress and is generally good for you.

I go to ZUmba, and choir. Releases all stresses. I've been using a hypnotherapy app to stop biting my nails and it's also helped me not get so stressed. i'm about to start bullet journalling to try and keep on top of what needs doing becasue I have too many lists in different places.

I try to stop before I need to stop. I find anxiety makes me productive (I work really fast when I’m anxious) but it becomes a vicious spiral of work/anxiety/work until it gets out of control and I feel terrible.

I try to be really disciplined and work for blocks of time and then stop regardless. I put these blocks of time in my diary.

I treat the ‘stop’ as another appointment that I have to keep, and then consciously do a ‘downtime’ activity. For me this is reading, crochet, watching tv or having a nap. If I need downtime and I’m actually at work I do filing or tidying my desk.

Agree with PP about strict compartments too. I don’t socialise with work colleagues and I don’t check work emails at home.

Go on mumsnet.

Massively limit time on social media / internet / mumsnet
Fresh air, exercise
Saying ‘no’ to things
Meeting up with friends
Eating healthy food and drinking enough water
Meditation in the evenings (Headspace app) and a 5-10 minute yoga routine in the mornings

I stress eat... which is why I used to be 80lbs overweight

I now go to the gym or go for a long, brisk walk. In the stressful moment (if appropriate) I make clear lists so that my thoughts aren't so jumbled. I recently did a course on personal effectiveness which improved my lists - I now ensure that every item is a task, not a project. "Organise training day" is a project and can be overwhelming. "Call John about training day dates", "reserve room", "book catering", etc is much more manageable and each item can be quickly scored off instead of having the larger project on the list for days on end.

cuddle mum
meditate
watch shortland street!
lie down and make myself stay there and breathe until the fight or flight bit passes.becasue it does unless I react to it then it continues and I'm somewhere I wouldn't/didn't want to be if only id jave just caught my breathe enough to think clearly.
doggyyyyys.just be around them they make the world a better place
id love to box or do kickboxing
id love to get my horse out stables to and just ride off across fields hehe.
loud music.

what would you say to someone you loved feeling like you do.
or what would someone who reaaaaaly love you say