Parcel Etiquette

[Orangutango]

Yesterday afternoon the Yodel man knocked and asked me to take a parcel for 'across the road'. I happily agreed as there is a small group of us who always take parcels for each other.

So as not to drip, about ten years ago I took a parcel for another neighbour across the road. By the time I'd sorted the kids out that evening etc they hadn't called to collect so I took it over about 7pm. The man was bloody vile to me, asking what on earth had taken me this long and he was waiting for it. I was a bit too dumbstruck to say anything at the time but vowed never to take a thing for them again.

Of course, when Yodel man went to push the card through he didn't go to nice neighbour opposite but twat neighbour.
Twat neighbour was home about 5pm last night as the car was outside. He didn't come for the parcel. 24 hours later it's still here and it's reasonably large.
DH says if he doesn't pick it up tomorrow he's putting it in the garage until he does.

AIBU not to take it over after the abuse last time?

PS the ddog thing - knowing MN it's "Darling Dog"

Maybe you could push a note through his door asking him to call and collect his parcel. You could add the times that would be convenient to you.

He couldn’t think that you were the delivery person could he? Really? I suppose that could explain why he was such a bastard but it’s unlikely he didn’t recognise you as his neighbor, right?

Normal parcel etiquette is to go and collect parcel from neighbours ASAP upon seeing the “we’ve left your parcel with the neighbours at no. X” card. Same day if possible.

The only times we haven’t done this is when the delivery man hasn’t left us a note, or when he’s written the wrong house number on the note.

Your parcel, you collect.

There have however been times I've been unaware a neighbour took in a parcel as the card has gone astray, and neighbours have then delivered to me. It's very kind of them, and I'm always thankful. I takes lots of parcels for the neighbours too, and deliver if they haven't collected after a coupLe of days.

PS the ddog thing - knowing MN it's "Darling Dog

@slimthistime

PMSL 'ddog' = darling dog ???! No way!!! 😂😂😂

The acronyms on mumsnet have gone barmy!

The name on the box is a gift. If he sees you in the street and complains you haven't brought his parcel over, you can reply 'Oh, I'm sorry! Seeing as you ordered a Leg Master, I assumed your legs were fully operational, and you could use them to walk across the street and pick it up yourself, you ferret-faced, fart-breathed TOSSER!'

Maybe paraphrase.

No he knew I wasn't the parcel woman. Lived here many years by that point and I did say "I took this on for you earlier".

He's got a week then it's return to sender.

If I'm ever not in & someone's room one for me I go round as soon as I get back & see the card.

We had similar though, I took a parcel in for new next door neighbours, I took it round to give her & she said 'oh right' took it off me & shut the door no thank you, kiss my arse or anything. I work from home so often take parcels for neighbours but now I ask the delivery driver which house number it's for & if it's there's just say no. Let her drive to the sorting office in future ungrateful cow!!

*took one for me

Parcel etiquette actually dictates that you collet it rather than waiting for your neighbour to bring it to you.

"ferret-faced, fart-breathed TOSSER"

😂😂😂

Thanks for clarifying that he knows you’re not the delivery woman. In that case definitely do nothing. Cheeky bugger.

Just remember that sometimes the parcel deliverer doesn't leave a note saying where your parcel is!

Our neighbours took in a large boxed Christmas tree for us, but we were completely oblivious until they knocked at the door with it a week later because the delivery driver hadn’t left a card! Fortunately, we were equally helpful with parcel acceptance so there were no hard feelings, but I felt bad as their house was a tiny two bed which had had its hallway obstructed by our parcel

Yep, etiquette is you go and collect your own parcel. Sometimes my neighbours see me arrive home and come round with it because they’re nice people. Otherwise I’ll nip over because, you know, I want my parcel. Your neighbour is an absolute tosser. You know he’s had the card, which tells him where his parcel is. I doubt it says ‘your neighbour will deliver this especially for you’.

The good news is the return address (shopping channel) is on the invoice so it can go back after a week. I might have been more tolerant of twats several years ago but I certainly aren't now so he can stick his bloody leg master where the sun doesn't shine.

Love the idea of buying my own and using it in the garage though, channel my inner Olivia newton John

If he doesn't collect it, I'd be tempted to go and set it up on his doorstep and use it just to see the look on his face

I'd return it to sender today.

I don't understand this British system of leaving parcels with neighbours. As the numerous threads here point out, it's just a great big hassle.

Disappointing update - Twat sent his wife. Mildy amusing actually as box is very heavy and our front doors first floor

She mumbled something about only just seeing the card and went on her way. He was definitely hoping I'd just bring it over, looks like I won the waiting game lol.

Lesson learned to check more carefully next time.

Yep, Next fine just say oh sorry, I don’t take parcels in for that twat.

I bloody corrected that and the bastard thing has bolloxed it up anyway.

next time

We get a lot of parcels. Seemingly always delivered when I have gone to the loo or shop for milk. My lovely neighbour takes them in for me.

But delivery people don't always leave a card. I go round straight away (as long as car is on the drive) normally but sometines wait a couple of days because if delivery is 3-5 working days, add on another day for rurality and out can take a few days before I realise the parcel has gone astray and isn't still out for delivery.

These I'm eternally grateful to neighbours for bringing round. And I do the same for them. Surely this is normal behaviour?