To not be spoke to like I'm rubbish ...

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Il try and write everything in one go....
Last Monday I bought a sofa £750 in cash.
It was from a small furniture shop in town and they offer 10% discount for OAP if you show your bus pass.
My dad came with me and said the sofa was for him and I saved 10 percent.
They said they would deliver in 48 hours.
Got to last Thursday and nothing.
They only had a mobile number but weeny answering.
Left voicemails and they called back Monday..asking did I want the delivery asap.
I said yes..he said il ring delivery driver and call you back.
Got to Wednesday and nothing ,rang again and today is Friday and nothing.
Obviously I'm panicking.
Sat talking to my dad and he starts shouting and swearing at me,saying I'm being unreasonable and I have to wait and can't see why I'm annoyed ????
Then he says I'm doing nothing to help you again,you've spoiler yourself,shut your mouth and wait for your sofa.
This afternoon we were meant to go to town and I said we can pop in ...starts shouting saying I'm a fucking idiot and il make myself look stupid.
Why does my dad react like this?

Am I right in thinking you can't ask about the sofa yourself op because they think the purchase was made by your dad, in order to get the oap discount ?

I don't understand why you are spending so much time with this man

Do you buy all your household goods with his oap discount? Are you incapable of going into town without him ?

deliah Im notrude, but you really need to take a step back and stop being so confrontational. This is an internet forum, people have opinions, much like they do the world over.

He is the only family I have left,don't want to loose all my family.

If you've decided that he can treat you like rubbish just because he's the last man standing then you can't complain about him treating you like rubbish.

You can't do anything about the family you are born into.

You only choose the family you marry into and the one create for yourself.

Put your efforts into building yourself a good friend network and a good life. Chances are that one day you will have a family again: your partner and your children.

Sloe, believe me you are rude.

He speaks to you like this because he can. Telling him not to is not enough as he has decided he doesn’t want to respect you.

Better no family than a rude and abusive family.
You conned the furniture shop. Cancel the order and pay full price.

How about you just not go near your dad anymore?

When people treat you like shit you just keep away from them. Family or not.

You had great addvice last time op from various people did you follow it?

*advice

Your Dad is nasty, and he is in the habit of being nasty to you because there are no consequences. He wouldn't do it to a teacher or a bank manager etc. It sounds like a pattern you have both got into.

If you want to keep him in your life you need help managing his aggression, however I would think carefully about his affect on you and any children you have.

I'm sure others will have really good advice. My suggestion would be to walk away without a word every time he does it. Just walk off.

I'm not Deliah but it's your prerogative to labour away under that misapprehension. Do remember I didnt engage with you, you chose to sit up in your pram and throw your toys out engage me Do enjoy your day.

He is treating you like this because you allow him too. Saying ‘Don’t speak to me like that’ washes straight over him because, in his eyes, he is right and you are wrong. He won’t change, why would he?

All you can do is change your reaction to it. If you don’t like it, don’t see him. Simple. Perhaps he is treating you like an annoying, whiney child because you are coming across that way? And stop using him to get discounts you aren’t entitled to.

Sloe, I asked you perfectly politely how the OP was flighty. You chose to reply in a rude manner and have since been rude and dismissive to the OP.