Husband spends all his time with his mother

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DH's mother is around all the time, she is at our house almost every day. When I am in work she is over from early in the morning and still there when get home. It's my day off today and he's meeting her for a coffee then they are both taking our DD out for dinner later. (I haven't been included). He will also spend the whole weekend with her as I'm away with our other child. AIBU to think this is too much? DH and I have fallen out as I remarked that I'm surprised he has anything left to say to his mother as he sees her so much!

As long as you MIL isn't meddling in your relationship why do they need to limit how much time they spend together when you are not there?

I think any third adult in my home to be with DP from early in the morning until evening most days and going out with them when I'm at home is going to interfere with the relationship purely by being there so much.

I'm generally in favour of DPs managing the iL relationship and visits but this is a level I've not come across.

Is your DP WFH and asking her to help around the house (or simply at home and asking)? Who is looking after DD at the weekend or are they adult DC?

It's only like women spending all their time with their mums. That's seen as acceptable though.

I have known women who live near their parents see more of their mothers when they are home with small children. I've never come across a woman whose mother practically lives with them via day long visits on most days.