To ask for your moving in with DP tips

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Me and DP will soon be moving in together, currently at house viewing stage.

He spends most of his time at mine anyway so it isnt going to be a massive shock.

I was wondering if you had any random tips or advice - if you could go back to your past self on the day before you moved in with your partner, what word of advice would you give?

Oh and btw, we live in a cheap part of the country so its possible we may get the opportunity to have more bedrooms than we need - I was toying with the idea of having "our own" bedrooms

We have a shared washing basket. He puts the washing on more often than me. One of us will hang it on the airier when it’s done.
I don’t do his ironing —but i also don’t do my own either—
We have our own house jobs as it were but it’s just evolved that way.
I think you both have to be flexible. He has his ways and I have mine. There are things we have both let go of.
Sort out the finances before you move in and make sure you’re both happy with them. We have a joint account for household stuff and groceries. We both put the same amount in each month and agreed what it would be spent on.
Also, get a cleaner if you can afford one

All over the world across all classes women do more household chores so its a reasonable assumption that the upbringing/conditioning of one or both partners will reproduce this (even when a man might have been living independently for some time). The best solution - as suggested several times - is to talk about it before & not be too rigid about give & take. Assume it will even out over time :)
Even better might be to teach about housework at school as in Australia. Though some research suggests women's lives now harder than in 1970s

From the half who you claim do too much, the other half seem to want everyone in the house doing their own washing, their own cooking, their own food shopping, their own cleaning, dealing with their own families, seperate beds/bedrooms, keeping their own names after marriage and only want marriage to ensure they get half of their partners worth after insisting on each other doing everything for themselves and anything outside of these realms is wrong.

Wow, you really gave yourself with the 'keeping their own names after marriage' comment there, didn't you? Thanks - it's useful to know not to bother to engage with you.

Wow, you really gave yourself with the 'keeping their own names after marriage' comment there, didn't you? Thanks - it's useful to know not to bother to engage with you

What does that even mean?! I got horrific abuse on here because I took my husband's name. I couldn't give a fig if you change, keep or invent a brand new name but don't imply I'm in the wrong for stating it.

According to numerous posts on here, the acceptable way is to keep your own name, I don't agree and I'M the offensive one?

Ok.

My OH is my favourite ever housemate, it's wonderful living with someone you love. Enjoy OP

Get a couple of long charging cables for devices. Makes life easy.

It is fine if you do more chores while he DIYs the house better. But make sure he understands that when the DIY is done he starts doing chores.

@SilverSpot are you joking why not do someone's laundry? It doesn't matter what their gender is!!
I wash my families clothes and my husband washes my families clothes.

I really do hope you are joking ....

One bed. Two duvets.

Be honest about finances up front. Hopefully you know each other’s attitudes to spending, saving, holidays etc already but it is always worth double checking, as unromantic as it is.

Check how aligned your views on having children & parenting are... Incl if one or both already have DC