When is Sunday lunch "Sunday lunch"

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Dh and I agreed we hadn't seen our friends in a while and thought about inviting them for tea/brunch/lunch on Sunday. I said text him and say how about lunch, specify sort of toasties and salad. He texted and said "Sunday lunch, nothing too complicated" 🙈🙈🙈they have come back to say thanks so much we will bring a dessert. He CANNOT understand that he invited our friends for "Sunday lunch" ie roast chicken and potatoes and thinks he is totally fine to serve toasties. I may kill him. Aibu????!!!!

Im in Glasgow so not very many ppl ‘up ourselves’ here in my family or friends but that is what they would expect. I will say tho, if you’re happy to plate up toasties for your friends,l tho, why ask advice? It is obviously a meal they expect, not a snack. Or why bring dessert? Just tell them what they’re getting beforehand at least.

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Yup he's invited them for a roast. Just whack a chicken in the oven.
I once did this when I had just moved from the south to the north and I invited people from work over for tea (as in a cup of and a slice of cake and biccies) but they were expecting tea (as in what I would have called dinner - evening meal). Was fine in the end but I am careful with words I use now - not so easy wto convey this to DHs though.
And there is obviously nothing wrong with casual food with friends!

OK..I'm going for spinach roast chicken stuffed cheese and sun dried tomato breads with herby potatoes. That has to be OK right?

That sounds really nice.

I once did this when I had just moved from the south to the north and I invited people from work over for tea (as in a cup of and a slice of cake and biccies) but they were expecting tea (as in what I would have called dinner - evening meal

yep, Yorkshire here and if you invited me over for tea, that's the evening meal.

OP it sounds lovely, Can I come too? I make a cracking Eton Mess and I’m very funny ish

It's not about not they tricky though, it's about I intended to be informal brunch but dh has tied me down to formal dinner!!

A family we were friends with once invited us for sunday lunch and when we got there (with wine and pudding) they served TOMATO SOUP.

@krytensnanobots sounds yummy, yes please call round!!!

@cherrychasingmuncher I'm totally with you and I takes a few a side. Xx

t's not about not they tricky though, it's about I intended to be informal brunch but dh has tied me down to formal dinner!!

Moral of this story text yourself next time as dh obviously frickin' hopeless lol.
(I sympathise, mine would obliviously do the same!)
The only solution is he cooks it all. Otherwise it's LTB

A family we were friends with once invited us for sunday lunch and when we got there (with wine and pudding) they served TOMATO SOUP.
Just tomato soup?! Where was the main?!

They are so expecting Sunday lunch! Get the chicken and pots roasting and get working on the gravy ! Joking aside there needs to be more communication about this with your friends.

@krytensnanobots that's exactly it. He's a Muppet. I had a week off from formal his parents or mine and he fed me "Sunday lunch" to a group that would have said hey ho. Ah well

If you had invited them round for a catch up and cup of tea then you could absolutely offer toasties as an aside while they're there

• you do not invite people for lunch, Sunday or otherwise, and then serve toasties!

I once went to MILs for Sunday roast. I couldn’t wait to have the lovely succulent chicken and yummy roasties, crisp Yorkshire puddings drowned in big fat dollops of homemade gravy. I thought about it all morning. When we got there she was making chips eggs and beans. I nearly cried.

This post makes me want to be violently sick.

A simple tarte tatin and pre made salad and potatoes fine

A quiche and salad and bread and cheese or potatoes fine

A simple stew and mash and roast veg salad thing fine

Side of salmon and new potatoes and green beans fine

Doesn't need to be a full on roast. But no toasties!

I feel strongly about this can you tell?!

I think this is the Crux of it. Dh and I were on different pages. I was thinking tea and catch upnhe was thinking toasties =Sunday lunch. They don't!!

Having said all that op just this evening I made nigella's toasties with Brie, Parma ham and figs and it was AMAZING. So maybe that's an option...

"A simple tarte tatin and salad" fine in place instead of toasties and salad for a Sunday lunch?
What's the difference?!
Both aren't Sunday lunch and if you were to offer tarte tatin and salad instead of roasties and pud you're just as much as a muppet

Cough why does it make you feel sick?

Heh, clearly I either move on different circles or have been offending my friends with fancy salad and charcuterie for years, heh!
Is it a regional thing? I'm a fancy dan Londoner. Are you Sunday Lunch fundamentalists Up North? (I note a Scot among you too- my Glaswegian family would probably serve curry and whisky at about 5pm as Sunday lunch...)

Are you Sunday Lunch fundamentalists Up North?

Yes. Well, I am anyway.

I love this thread.
I'm imagining your guests spending Sunday morning constructing an exotic pudding with spun sugar and rose water meringues then turning up to the smell of toast
The easiest roasts are piles of veg roasted with the meat on top less. No LTB from me but he's definitely on clearing up duty.