Would you go?

[MrsWineasaurus]

Sorry if this turns into an essay, it’s a long story.

Right, so MIL is getting married later on this year, the most bridezilla woman you’ve ever met. I was meant to be bridesmaid. MIL insisted on getting her bridesmaids dresses from China. I’m a big girl size 18. Dress didn’t fit now I’m no longer bridesmaid (fine by me).

She still wants me to stay with her and the other bridesmaid the night before and in the morning whilst they’re getting ready. Hair make up etc. (Which I’m not having). She told DH she got the bridesmaid presents, including me, but doesn’t want to give them as she doesn’t want to feel like she’s rubbing it in my face. Tbh I think the staying at the hotel and watching them all get ready is rubbing it in my face.

Aibu not to stay the night before and make my way down in the morning?

OK. I don't think you would necessarily be unreasonable if you 'really' don't want to and it would cause you major upset. If you just think it won't be much fun, I'd do it for the sake of a future relationship.
If you've got on well with her thus far and love her dearly, there must be something worth salvaging.

I think she wants to share her day with you even if you're not a bridesmaid. I'd go if it was my mil as we are very close. Just think you can neck the bucks fizz worrying about dashing to the loo in a bridesmaid's dress during the ceremony.

Are you staying in the hotel the night before?

If so & there is a get together/drinks, could you just go for that?

Seems daft (to me) to stay overnight in her room(?) & then to watch them have hair & make up done!

Could you also have your hair and make up done to go with your out fit, drink fizz and be involved? Often the mother of the bride does all this without being a bridesmaid. I would still go for a box set!

"Aibu not to stay the night before and make my way down in the morning?"

No, ywnbu to do this.

No I would just attend as a guest, tell her you are happy to do that.

What a huge bloody fuss she's making.