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Aibu to think this is a safeguarding issue ?

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laketaupo · 16/10/2017 18:56

So my dm is in a nursing home now , which specialises in dementia and palliative. She is there for palliative , brain tumour with under 6 months to go but still has it mostly together , goes out everyday with me etc.

She came back from the dining room to find a resident lying in her bed , tucked up with the curtains closed , and refusing to move! She has popped her head in before thinking it was a living room rather than a bedroom , but this really takes the biscuit ! What can I do as her daughter to prevent this happening and safeguard my mum against wandering residents ?!

OP posts:
Tankerdale · 17/10/2017 20:20

Not safeguarding as others have said as it's not abuse or harm. However it is an invasion of her privacy and loss of dignity and should be taken seriously so I'm glad you've made some progress.
Obviously DOLS wouldn't apply because she has capacity.

Justoneme · 17/10/2017 20:31

This is a safeguarding; request a safeguarding plan from the placement.

dangermouseisace · 18/10/2017 11:08

so glad to hear that progress has been made OP- hopefully your DM can have some peace and quiet now!

humanGnomeProject · 18/10/2017 12:30

No, another resident accidentally being in the wrong room isn't a safeguarding issue. This is sadly a word which is so over-used it's becoming meaningless.

It isn't to say that you shouldn't speak to the right person at the home. I hope you get it sorted.

Justoneme · 18/10/2017 12:47

It's the bigger picture... another person has got into her mothers bed ... okay how long has the person been in the bed? Have staff notice the person isn't in their own room or main areas?

It could be viewed as institutional abuse because the provider isn't doing anything about it. Or it could be viewed as emotional or psychological abuse due to the impact it is having on the mother.

safeguarding depends on the person affected.

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