To wish this woman would stop knocking at my door?

[MrsOverTheRoad]

I might get a pasting here but I just need to know if AIBU.

DD is 9 and goes to a local school. Lots of the kids are from surrounding towns and villages...so not many of her classmates live nearby.

There's a boy from her class about 5 doors down.

The boys' Mum, last year, initiated a few trips to the local lake which is very close to my house. She has to pass my house to get there from hers.

I went along with DD mainly because DD is very sociable and wanted to.

Anyway...the Mother is a bit odd somehow..can't put my finger on it, she seems sometimes to be under the influence of perhaps some sort of drug ...she doesn't smell like alcohol.

One day last year, she arrived with her son (and it's always without warning at teatime) and banged on the door, asking if we could go to the lake.

I said I was busy and she offered to take DD.

I agreed as I felt slightly on the spot and dd was nagging. In hindsight I shouldn't allow myself to be pressured like that.

When she returned with DD an hour later, there was an odd man with them...he loitered in the background and the Mum never introduced me or anything. He sort of glowered at me unsmiling.

She dropped DD off, then walked off with her son and the man back towards her own house. I asked DD "Who was that man?" and DD said "I don't know...she just met him by the lake"

So though it was unclear if she was a friend of his or not I felt a bit weird about her then...I had anyway but that cemented it.

Then last week she bumped into DH and made a disparaging comment about our older DD! Well...cheeky cow! She said something about my older DD"s dress sense as she's a tad experimental (teenager!)

So I thought, that's it. No more truck with her...DD never asks to call for the boy or if he can come over, so she's not that keen...

Since last week, she's banged on my door three times asking do we want to go to the lake and when I say no, we're busy, she offers to take DD...and I have to fucking say "No, it's not convenient"

Tonight (it's night here) she banged again and I opened the door and she looked at me and said "Don't tell me! You can't come!" in this odd voice!

So I said "That's right, I can't. Bye!" and shut the door.

What's with her!?

I would probably just say, "Look DD won't be coming to the lake with you so there is really no point in you keep on asking".

The man could be her brother or boyfriend, it's a bit of a leap to imagine that he is a child abductor. then again you clearly have other concerns about the mother and no way would I let my DD go off with someone I suspected was under the influence of drugs.

put an "eye spy" in the door - knock, you check, open if you want to

I don't think I've ever been more grateful to live on a very unsociable street in London!

I'd just be direct about it. 'We're not really keen on impromptu plans, so this probably won't work in any case.'

"Don't tell me! You can't come!" in this odd voice!

I doubt she'll come back.

Number 1, install a peephole in your door, and number 2, if she knocks again tell her flat out to never knock again as you will not be going to the lake today or ever. Please listen to your gut feelings about this woman. She sounds unhinged.

Why the hell did you let her go the first time ?

Don't not answer the door- that's just silly. Nor make the excuses of homework, being busy etc. That just sounds like 'not now. Instead just say DD won't be going to the lake with women

I thinks she sounds like she has some sort of learning difficulty (not that should change your decision).

No, there's no chance in hell I'd be letting DD go to the lake or anywhere else with her (and possibly a random bloke) in future.

Nobody should ever let their child go off with somebody they aren't comfortable with themselves IYSWIM. You wouldn't want to spend time with this woman (from what I can see), so don't send your young child off with her either.

You do sound very aggressive. I am amazed that anybody dares knock at your door. However, I do agree that if she keeps coming it would be annoying.

Finding odd chaps by the lake and bringing them home. I jollywell think not. Nope, just say no thanks. And keep saying it. She'll get the message eventually.

Don’t just say not now or you’re busy, make it VERY clear that you want nothing to do with her ever again. A clear fuck off woman should do the trick. Christ knows who or what the weird guy was all about but for your DD to be in such demand by this woman, it is very worrying.

Have you wrote this past before ?? sure I've read that’
I remember reading this a month or so ago, almost word for word

I scrolled back up and checked the date assumed it was Zombie as I thought I read it before

I've read this before too.

Next time, ignore the banging on the door and don't open it. I wouldn't let my DD go with her again.

I did the same starlight, all very odd imo.

Yeah, definitely read it before. Is it the plot for a new book or something?