To let the school know what is being said to dd

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Dd in year 7. She is fiesty kid and able to hold her own.
First child in secondary school so not sure how to handle this.

She told me and dh over the eeekend that a boy had approached her last week in school and asked her if she wanted to
"Suck his penis"

She said there was a group of them and they were all giggling so I think it was some stupid boy prank and nothing predatory iyswim?

She literally ignored them and walked away and said she wasn't upset or scared and just thought they were stupid.

Although we are a very open house she doesn't know about oral sex (I think)

So do I mention it to school

and do I tell her what he meant? She hasn't asked.

Thanks

Well done OP!

So glad you called the school.... I can't tell you the number of times I told my mother about things like this to have them minimalised or worse, told that I should be flattered. This led me to conclude that there was no point discussing things like this with adults, which unfortunately continued when I was assaulted at work.

Last week there was a Panorama documentary about kids sexually abusing Kids. This explains it perfectly. It’s on BBC iPlayer.

Definitely let the school know. Whether or not they approach the boy in question, it will the school know that work needs to be done regarding sex Ed and relationships.

Totally just the schools fault, obviously. All etiquette must be taught at school-nothing to do with the raising of the child in question. (hmm)

Yes, exactly. God forbid that anything should be the parents' fault.

And I hardly think etiquette is the right word, either. Etiquette is saying please and thank you, and coveting your mouth when you cough. Not saying 'suck my penis' would come under not sexually harassing people. Slightly more serious, I'd say.

Report ! This is how it starts and any decent school will come down in this like a ton of bricks . Have not RTWT yet so maybe you have already