To pack up and go home at daylight

[Agentcoulson]

Took DC away for one night. Their behaviour yesterday was embarrassing. It's incredibly child friendly so not expecting too much but behaviour yesterday was embarrassing. Then a huge fuss getting 3 year of to sleep. Now awake from 4.45. getting away with whatever he wants because if I try to say anything he doesn't like he starts to shout.
I've paid for breakfast but feeling too embarrassed to go. I am soooo tired. Both children will be shattered and misbehave all day.
Do I just take us all home first thing or how do I fix this.

I have a 3 and 7 year old and they would probably behave just like this if I took them out alone.
You're fantastic for doing it and don't feel defeated or embarrassed by what anyone thinks.

Don't be embarrassed. Go for breakfast and enjoy your day.

I used to say to DD " oh I feel really sad today because I was really looking forward to giving you xxx (something I knew she's really wanted) or doing yyy (something I knew she would really like to do) and now I can't do that because your behaviour has been so bad (list the things that were not good)" then I would work the conversation round to what she needed to behave like to get the treat re-instated at the end of a day of good behaviour. Doesn't have to be expensive just something they love, special sweets, ice-cream, special place that you've found where you can visit to skim 'special' stones, etc. etc, just something you can use as a 'treat' for good behaviour. A carrot (bribe lol)!

Agree with wearing them out. Long long walk or local park, swim, etc.

I've read many books and then some! But don't know 123 magic will read up thanks. With more sleep I am more on top of things.
Behaviour is an issue and I'm trying to get on top of it. Lots and lots of change so it's taking us a while.

Thanks for the encouragement. MNing from loo. Did breakfast. Of course food makes sense, thanks. Scrapped morning plans for just playing outdoors.

Lovely woman made us an amazing breakfast and I have had a pot of coffee.

Probably switching phone off for noww but thanks all.

Gosh, you poor thing! It's sounding like a holiday in hell.

Perhaps read out the riot act, have some breakfast (coffee for you!) and see how the day pans out. Can you come back to your accomodation for quiet time in the middle of the day? It sounds as though you are all wound up and exhausted at the same time. Take it easy, keep well fed and watered, try not to cram too much into the day and keep everything low key. Even if you just hang at the park with some food for a few hours then go back to the youth hostel for some quiet time.

And if all else fails, admit defeat, load up the car and drive home!

I would (and have) go home for certain.

"Scrapped morning plans for just playing outdoors"

And they probably had as much fun. Perhaps lower expectations for a year, until you've got a 8 and 4 year old, or even a 9 and 5 year old.

Give yourself a year for all of you to adjust to the changes and work on improving their behaviour and not tag-team.

And they probably had as much fun

Ah if only Birds. All good until there was an incident with a stick. DC1 ignored me saying to out the stick down, nearly whacked DC2. d
Only put it down when I raised my voice. DC2 picked it up an hit me hard.

I don't know whether I overreacted but I said they'd had all their chances.

They cried about coming home but fine since. We're all so tired it seemed best. They are under a blanket watching a film.

The original plan was big adventure playground on beach. The activities are all things they'd normally love.

I feel shit. Have let them down. They are so openly challenging. Are kids this transparent about needing boundaries?
It really feels like that's the problem. I need to step up.

Ex and I have been talking over the last week and both on same page. Hopefully we'll get there. Feeling crap isn't useful. I can make it better.

There's a behaviour chart plan. Never been my thing but got to be worth a go.

Stop being so hard on yourself OP, none of us are perfect

Agent "Are kids this transparent about needing boundaries?"

sorry if I have misunderstood - you mean, do they need boundaries?

yes!!!

Sorry didn't explain well. I know they need boundaries. But I was trying to make sense of the behaviour in terms of it feeling like they are trying to get a reaction.
They're both asleep.
Fingers crossed for a good night sleep.