Another birthday present one.

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DD's birthday next week, she'll be 17. PILs sent a card and a present, which she has already opened - it's a beautiful silky dressing gown which she loves. What was not so great is that they have misspelt her name on the card. For years, they kept not pronouncing the 'a' at the end of her name and I had to keep correcting them. Now they've stuck an 'h' in the middle. DP's excuse - well they are 80. Yes, that's true but both of them have their full faculties. I can't understand why they can't get their only granddaughter's name right. AIBU?

So its your dd thats upset? Not you? Or both?

Its a good lesson to help your dd understand. That just because people make small mistakes, especially when ill or elderly, its doesnt mean they dont care.

If she is upset, help her see the positives.

My granny rarely got any of our names right. She'd just call all the granddaughters by her daughter's name, and the grandsons by her son's name. Never bothered us as we knew she cared about us in other ways.

To be fair, she misspelled her own name for quite a while before rediscovering her birth certificate! Some people just aren't that into names, apparently!

Everyone spells our kids' names wrong. (Out on here so don't mind sharing etc). People spell Karyn's name "Karen, Cahrun, Caryn" etc. She finds it funny. Also, do you think it'll become a sort of endearing memory in the future? My nan used to call me something no one else does. Will she laugh about it? 😀

It was a lovely gift. My DD has MH issues (I've posted before) - it doesn't help her self esteem, that's all.

She is 17. MH or not tell her to grow up. Her grandparents are elderly and deserve some understanding and bought her a beautiful gift.

Though by the post here from you i would wager where the attitude regarding it is coming from.

Oh @op I sympathise with you! My mum died a year before my first dc was born and sometimes it's hard, when my in-laws are being a bit shit, to NOT think, "my mum wouldn't pull this sort of shit if she was alive". But then, I'm sure she'd have wound me up in a million other ways which my in-laws don't.

Anyway, I wouldn't get too worked up about it. It's still a lovely present. Maybe send them a text saying thank you and politely mention the spelling of your dd's name.

Fwiw I just signed off a card from my toddler DD and my handwriting went a bit wonky and now there's an extra letter in there ! Could be something as simple as that.

Niki - babe. Just.......no.