To be annoyed at this old lady

[5had03]

So I pulled into my street driving home from my parents house earlier today, two DC in the back of car.

As I was driving down the street at no more than 20mph (mainly because of car wrecking speed bumps) an old lady with a walking stick suddenly came from behind the back of a lorry straight into the road.

Well thank goodness I saw her quick enough and stopped the car almost instantly so I didn’t hit her. I put my hand up in courtesy but didn’t feel I did any wrong.

However, this lady then begins to wave her walking stick towards my direction and shouting ‘you young drivers now days do not know how to drive and need to slow down’

She was an old lady so I wasn’t going to shout back at her but during the day it’s annoyed me more and more. SHE walked into the road without checking, I was not speeding, at 29 I do not class myself as a young driver!

10 not 20 miles sorry

No OP, you were going faster than that. JohnSnow'sWife says so and she would know because she wasn't there.

OP, I would leave this thread to rumble on without you now. It's entered into the realm of Planet Mumsnet from where there is no return.

My thoughts exactly because I’m being made out to be some sort of maniac driver and ageist which neither are fair or true

PerfumeIsAMessage

You are extremely rude and should read the guidelines yourself

You need to slow down especially when visabilty is reduced by trucks. It’s frustrating but you need to be a defensive driver and assume people are stepping out from all nooks and grannies ;)

My cat said from the off that this was going to follow a predictable format

I do like how Perfume has told you off for breaking talk guidelines using the adjective 'old' (which isn't), by describing you as dense (which is).

And calling me ‘young lady’

Which is surely the same thing?

Oh, sorry.

Young women

Maybe that term is acceptable

'And calling me ‘young lady’
Well they were obviously taking the piss. No-one says 'young lady'

Calling someone old isn't a problem unless you then attribute unlikely stereotypical behaviours to that person.
In the same way that 'young lady' isn't offensive unless you then trot out some predictable crap about a disinterested bimbo glued to her phone.
It's not the terms, it the shite, crack handed stereotyping.

5had03 you need to remember, Ageism is acceptable only where it's the older generation making sweeping generalised statements about younger people and their clothes/music/driving/delete as applicable*.

The other way round is just disgraceful and you will be called out on it.
Know your place, you joyriding whippersnapper you...the youth of today don't know they're born

I think there's a difference between adults and children.

I'm not particularly bored. But you do have a point, that this thread isn't incisive.

You don't like being written off as young.

So think before you characterise someone by their age.

)You do come across as increasingly goady, btw. Not liking the plank in your own eye being pretty obviously seen by others?)

"And calling me ‘young lady’

"Which is surely the same thing?"

Agree.

So as you don't like it, don't do it yourself.

I don’t dislike it couldn’t actually care less about being called ‘young lady’ or ‘young women’ my mum calls herself an old lady and she is 55.

I should get her to read the MN guidelines

Age is relevant because the old woman referenced the OP's age in her comment. The story makes more sense if we have an idea of relative ages.

There has to be an assumption of capacity. The elderly don't need someone making their decision about risk unless they lack capacity. Extremely controlling and ageist to say you'd supervise them.

^ This!!!!

Looks like the speed bumps actually did their job - you had enough time to stop and nothing hurt but an ego or two. It could have been a child or pet or impaired adult, which could also have resulted in some sort of shock-induced verbal attack, crying, yapping or even gratitude that you were driving carefully.

I'm wearing my shawl in bed.

As a 59 year old I pledge never to cross the road on my own again. Indeed I shall get a letter from my mum to that effect. She's 94 and still quite capable.

Someone who is 59 and calls herself an old lady is a little tragic.

My mother is in her seventies and would be furious at being called an old Lady, she can out drink me and lots a lot better in a pair if jeans,than I do

If she wasn't just out of hospital, I'd bet it was my DM! 😂

We weren’t there, OP, so there’s no way for us to know whether you were going too fast for the road conditions. 20 miles an hour does sound a bit fast for a road with speed bumps though (I live on a road with speed bumps). And with parked cars along the road, you do need to be more careful.

On the other hand, it’s never a good idea to cross from behind a lorry, as you need to be able to look in both directions.