Cheating partner or innocent behaviour?

[mumzilla2]

Long time lurker, name change for this post. I’m away for the night (last night) with the children and long term partner stayed at home. I felt uneasy but dismissed myself as paranoid about what he was doing. I checked his phone on find my iPhone app and it was removed, still showing laptop and iPhone in there. So I checked find my friends and saw that he was driving around an area about 5-6 miles away for over an hr - between 12-1am. For context he never goes out anywhere, and never late at night. Why would he do this? I spoke to him and gave him opportunity to tell me what he did last night and no mention of that, just mundane stuff about being on computer. AIBU to confront him and ask or am I being paranoid?

There is not enough info to k ow if he is cheating or not, but there is clearly issues with trust , and it sound like for good reason.
Do you want to be in a relationship where you have to worry every time they are left alone for a night?
What if you had to be away for a week or something?

If it's red light district he (sadly) won't need a lot of money. If he routinely carries cash anyway he might not of gone to a cash point.

He's got form. He may of cruised around looking but doing nothing. If pushed he will probably claim something like that. But you'll never know for sure.

Can you like like this?

OP -

1. You know he was out in the middle of the night
2. When asked he told you he was at home (so whatever he was doing, he's definitely lied to you)
3. He was in an area you think is pretty sketchy
4. He's got form for using prostitutes.

So yes, you haven't got cast iron evidence but in light of the above I'd say one thing you are definitely NOT is 'paranoid'.

Thank you to those who replied. I called his bluf and said someone saw you in the area and were u there? He admitted it and told me what he was doing. Very much not what I hoped and am gutted. Thanks to those who thought it wasn’t right.

In sorry to hear that. Look after yourself

sorry OP.

Oh no! I’m so sorry lovely.

Take care of yourself. Please post if you need to keep chatting.

Big hug x

Thank you ladies. I just need to work through how I feel.

Your intuition was right, I'm so sorry.
Have you asked him to leave?

Hope you are feeling ok, OP.

So sorry to hear this OP Hope you are alright as can be. My previous comments may have sounded harsh now I look back but they were more directed at him for being a creep and not feeling in a particularly good frame of mind about men (started my own thread about 'D' P earlier in fact about a separate issue so probably projecting). I am angry and sad on your behalf though. Horrible thing to have found out hope you have some good support in real life. Xxx