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Male equivalent to a Tomboy? Sexist that we don't have a Marygirl??

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TheDogAteMyHomeworkagain · 14/10/2017 23:58

So this evening our little neighbour told my dc she was a Tomboy, my dc adore her she's a cool kid. So they come in to question what a Tomboy was, I explained & then dd asked so what do we call Daniel & Will(not real name) who like o dress up as Elsa & have their nails painted?
I replied you call them Daniel & William, but dd persisted but you call Tomboys Tomboys what do you call boys who enjoy girls things too?
I had no answer, society is sexist. There is no such term for the male equivalent of Tomboys.. Dd was quite miffed & a bit pissed off that the girls get labelled for enjoying so called boys activites but nobody would dare label the boys for enjoying thing that society deems for girls

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coconuttella · 15/10/2017 04:30

There are no such things as "girl things" or "boy things". Children are children.

Agree with this. Tomboy isn't helpful and promotes gender stereotypes which only leads to much angst and suffering for those of both sexes who don't fit those stereotypes.

SleepingStandingUp · 15/10/2017 10:13

There is no male equivalent because it's girls who are judged and derided no matter what we do
Its crap all round.
Girls can do and like "boy" stuff and its acceptable. Bit its acceptable because its "but" stuff. So they get more freedom but only because it enables them to venture to the "better" size.
Boys are more constricted because they are already on the "better" side so if they want to play with "girl" stuff they're degrading their "superior" gender

Whereas in reality cars and trains are fun. Dolls are nice. Skye IS cooler than Marshall. Pando IS lesS annoying than Sula. Catwoman is pants. Black Widow rocks.

fc301 · 15/10/2017 19:01

I was merely relaying the personal experiences of my daughter. I didn’t expect to derided for it ... 🙄

Rumandraisin1 · 15/10/2017 20:17

I've never come across anyone who finds tomboys strange and unsettling.

Unfortunately, these days there seems to be an assumption that if a child doesn't fit into increasingly narrow gender roles, they must be trans and not just a perfectly regular little girl who likes what she likes:

www.nytimes.com/2017/04/18/opinion/my-daughter-is-not-transgender-shes-a-tomboy.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&_r=0

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