To wonder what dressed like a mum implies?

[fivefour3twoone]

I am wondering if I am committing any classic dressing like a mum errors? (Lighthearted!)

I often get told I look nothing like a mum and people are shocked to find it out I have 2 DCs!
I’m 26 and I usually wear jeans, vest, hoodie, converse, leggings etc
I wear minimal make up and my hair is usually up
Not sure what a mum should look like to be honest

Although a shopping trolley in Asda can usually identify a parent!

I think that dressing like a mum involves enough Bretton tops to make your teas spin and a fair amount of unidentifiable something's stains crusted on your skinny jeans/jumper/every inch of your body.

I hate that phrase. I am a mum. Why should I be worried about dressing like one?

for what Laurie said.
Does seem to be a sneer designed to be aimed at people who care about more than looking sexy & svelte. Thank you for not calling me shallow, hurrah!

Probably being dressed from head to toe in Boden.

'Dressed like a mum'/'Dressed like a dad'

Both imply frumpy I think.

'Dressed like a Granny/'Dressed like a grandad'

Both imply old fashioned I think.

I think it means practicality above all, or as if you don't give a shit.

I am happy to find that I still do give a shit.

I don't think I usually dress like a mom, but I recently bought some Toms because I needed a casual slip-on shoes. My son was disgusted and said only middle-class soccer moms wear Toms. I don't know how to break it to him that I am a middle-class soccer mom.

Follow dress like a mum on insta, she wears great clothes! I don't give a crap if I look like a mum or not though, I wear what I want & did before kids too

I think it generally means a little frumpy, like you've sort of given up putting in effort and dress more for comfort over style.

If I think about my friends with young children and my friends without I think they all dress well, but the main difference in the way they dress seems to be those without young children tend to wear more white/light clothing, expensive silk/cashmere/fabrics that don't machine wash, wear longer/dangly jewellery and have smaller handbags!

So I guess, by extension, and based on my very small sample mum's tend to dress practically for their situation* and those without dress for theirs.

*when they're with their children obviously.

I pockets in clothes!! I'm irrationally happy when I find out a top or dress I've ordered has pockets!

Dressing like a mum... I've no idea. If I put together me and 4 of my friends with children, we all have different styles. 2 out of the 5 have very 'different' style. By different I mean one loves 1950's dress and it really suits her, the dresses, the make up, the hair. The other one I wouldn't know how I describe the exact style but she wears a lot of denim/converse/band t-shirts, has half her head shaved and some wicked colours in the longer part (only slightly jealous that I could never pull this look off!). We're all mums.

Things I stopped wearing when I became a mum:
Heels, ( i needed to run), silk, dangly earrings, dresses, tights, jewellery of any sort, scarves, white trousers, dry clean only suits and jackets, my cashmere coat!.

Things I wear all the time
Jeans, leggings, trainers , boots, washable everything, tee shirts, sweats and hoodies, socks, anoraks

No excuse now that they are teens but I'm comfy!

I think dressing like a mum means

a pair of skinny jeans youv been wearing for 4 days that are hanging off your crosstrainer (that's never used) in your bedroom that have a bit of breakfast on them from a few days ago that you've tried to wet wipe off multiple times.

A tshirt / long sleeved top
And the gilet that you throw on because it makes your outfit look abit more presentable

We'd need to know if you're referring to a slummy mummy or a yummy mummy before we proceed.

I dress like me! smoothes down my crimplene skirt and brushes the fluff off my M&S cardi

Anything from Boden.

I think that what it implies is possibly different from what it actually is. It implies being frumpy/basic/ill fitting, as far as I can guess. The reality of dressing like a mum, is that it obviously varies depending on the style of the person. I know for me it was almost like a uniform when my kids were still very small. Skinny jeans, converse, long sleeved top, hair up. All weathers, all occasions! Now they're (the kids) not so physically up my arse all day and I'm venturing back into the human world, I am definitely aware that I'm actually putting together outfits. I'm buying stuff, looking at stuff online, grabbing something in passing while out and about. My brain now has a bit of space to think about getting dressed nicely. One or two of my friends have elder kids than mine, and like me, as soon as their youngest was at school, the style got snazzy. It's almost a pattern among us, as the babies get a bit less all-consuming, you start getting your old self back. I think it's interesting though that someone like Kim Kardashian, that I'm really no fan of BTW, did all sorts before she had kids, that's her that's what she does, we all know and have seen it. Now she's doing the same stuff, showing her boobs, naked shoots, barely there outfits, no different as far as I can tell - and the resounding insta-cry seems to be "SHE'S A MOTHER, IT'S DISGUSTING BEHAVIOUR!". So I think us non-slebs are also aware of what is expected of us. When you're a mum, keep yourself in mum mode at all times, no overtly sexual clothing or behaviour. Nobody wants to see your body or know what's going on under there, put it away! I think that comes across in how people dress once they become parents. Not to mention the fact that we're presented with, via the media, these WOW! post baby snap backs of three weeks postpartum goddesses with rock hard abs. You feel insecure about the newly acquired flabby bits and want to just cover it up, rather than being seen as a perfectly normal human woman that doesn't look like a movie star, doesn't have a personal trainer on call, and has just been through the 40 week endurance test from hell. I could go on and on!!

user1471 you must know me..?!

My view would be clothes worn for practicality rather than style.

So not the latest fashions or mis matched clothes, sporty trainers for running about etc .

Jeans, leggings, trainers , boots, washable everything, tee shirts, sweats and hoodies, socks, anoraks

BUT if you're dressed like a mum, you may have jeans (bootcut not skinny), trainers (old gym ones), boots (for comfort, not fashion), tops that are that M&S horrible short length... you get what I mean.

My two sons both say I don't dress like a mum which I think is a compliment from them!

Just asked teen dd.. she said cath kidstion, white stuff and stripy tops are ‘mum’ clothes 🙄