So fed up with DH

[Falconhoof1]

Yesterday I was working and the kids were off school so DH to the day of work. I also had a work night out after so I was grateful that he did this. I had a good night and came back slightly the worse for wear and went straight to bed. I got up this morning (DH still not up) and the kitchen in a fucking mess, there's no milk, the house is pretty much a state. He was off all day and did absolutely nothing in the way of house work and there's no fucking milk and I have a hangover! Wibu to go and get the lazy git out of bed to get milk, then tidy the kitchen?

Oh dear - my boyfriend could have written this thread about me. Luckily pregnancy is an excuse for everything, and he is extremely understanding!

YANBU though, it must be bloody annoying having a lazy partner who expects you to do all the work. Like having another child. I feel guilty about it every day as I'm the lazy messy psychoslob from hell.

Can you both arrange a simple list of chores that have to be done before bed each night, maybe? So at least you'd know the bare min was done!

If this thread was written by a husband who did all the housework, had a day at work followed by a rare night out and woke up to a pig sty of a house I don't think it would be any different to this at all.

YANBU. He should clean up after himself. If he can't do that without being told, you have no choice but to tell him.

Leave it all for him. It will be hard. It'll be hard not to say anything either.

Just make sure there wasn't an emergency that prevented him from tidying up.

Have a shower, get some breakfast and lay on the sofa all day.

Then come back and update us.

They're 8 and 14! How much 'looking after' did they need? I bet he wasn't playing with them all day unless it was on the X box.

He was lazy and it's not on.

Ok well he didn't tidy the kitchen but he went for milk and is now making dinner. It was just a bad start to the day.

So who tidied? And did he not just go for milk because he wanted some?

Yes..I tidied. And yes he only went for milk because he wanted some. Prick. I'm angry again now!

Sounds like you are taking advantage a bit. If you go out drinking; you have to take some responsibility the following morning!

Do you? Why?

Why did you tidy?

Because I'm an idiot!! And the untidy kitchen was making my hangover worse!

So if I go for a night out (after a day at work) I have to take responsibility for the mess that people in the house have made when I'm not there?

You should have buggered off out for the day - found somewhere with a comfy sofa and tea on tap!

Have a talk about it when you're feeling better as its not reasonable, but it's about more than just the one night and he might feel that having had a night out you don't have a leg to stand on, but if its a common problem he won't be able to defend his lack of action so easily.

Sorry, that was garbled, but I get you! He needs to help and there's no reason he couldn't have tidied up after himself today and made sure there was enough milk for a cuppa at least.