Trivial - AIBU to not invite 5 from a class of 27?

[JenniferYellowHat1980]

DD’s class was combined with the year above recently. I want to do a party for her year group plus one particular friend from the class above who started at the same time as her. It’s £8 a head so does make a financial difference too. AIBU to exclude 5 from the class above? Money is an issue for us at the moment but I also don’t feel like having the extras just because the classes were rearranged. She hasn’t been invited to parties of any of the older 5.

See, trivial.

Sorry, some of the year above. The others were combined with a different class.

I think excluding 5 children from a class of 27 is not acceptable (immaterial that they are older if it's a mixed age class). Why not just invite her particular friends if cost is an issue?

I would normally say, invite the whole class or a few but the older group are not in her class so wouldn't see any need to invite them. Two of my dc have been in split classes, either as one of the minority class or one of the majority class and it has never been the case that people from the "other" class were invited to parties, even if they were whole class parties.

I think it's ok. She doesn't know them well, and they are older than her.

You can invite who you like. Mine were encouraged to do return invites and then anybody else they wanted from clubs etc. For the first couple of years we just did class parties as no long term friendships at that age.

I wouldn't have a problem with it tbh especially if they aren't from her actual year group. I have excluded a few people from dds parties before when they were being mean to her and bullying her

I feel like a real meanie so I think I’ll invite them. You only pay for the ones who actually turn up which might mean I don’t end up paying much more anyway. There, talked myself round in a circle.

I think it's best to include everyone if possible. Perhaps the children from the year above won't be asked to whole-class parties of their previous class any more as they're no longer part of it. If a whole class party isn't possible due to money or anything else, it's better to invite no more than half the class so there aren't a very small number not invited. I don't think the age difference matters. This is the class now.

Just invite her friends / those she plays with. What is this madness that you are required to invite every child the same age your kid has ever exchanged glances with or you are the childcatcher?

I think I’ll invite them.

Hope your dd has a lovely party!

Not nice in my opinion.
Invite the whole lot or leave out at least 10 or 12.

It's too many. They might be older but they see each other every day and will talk about the party.