Toddlers screaming

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I have a 2 and a half year old and she has woken pretty much every night more than once since day one. I have 5 kids and she's number 4 and her behaviour is new to me.

She goes to bed like a dream and when wakes has a bottle and goes straight back off. Then that was upped to 2 and 3 bottles so we stopped and did controlled crying which again went well but still needed the 1 bottle.

Anyway long story short she now wakes about 11pm and screams and cries or plays and talks etc till 4am. My husband and I have tried all sorts and we are exhausted. She wakes the 1 year old in the meantime too. Please. Anyone.....help

Oh god, we are going through this. He can’t settle without bottles atm and wakes super duper early. I’m following for some helpful advice too. It’s exhausting!!

Is she cold? Often my son wakes up chilly but by then it’s too late and he’s wide awake!! !!

A bottle of milk in the night? You might want to get her teeth checked as that can cause quite serious decay.

No she's not cold. My husband thinks she has too many soft toys in her bed. He took some out but she wanted them back. He's good cop and I'm bad cop. He will cuddle etc which I know makes it worse and I'm firm. I've told him to wear ear plugs. For the past 2 and a half years I've been woken every 20 or minutes. I'm at my breaking point. I feel for you lookingbeyond40

Userx. I've spoken with her dentist. She states it's ok. It's soya milk and has less sugars than cows but yes this was a concern.

Cosleeping? I wouldn't leave my 2.5 year old to cry. She's still a baby! Cosleeping might give you all a better night sleep and make your dd feel more secure. My dd has always been a bad sleeper but she's always been welcome in my bed for comforting.

Have you ever slept in her room? I wonder whether something is waking her in the night. I had a similar problem with ds. When I moved him into a different room he slept much better. It turned out his old room was a bit noisy in the night as the hot water pipes clicked loudly as they contracted when they cooled down.

Maybe also try putting a thermometer in her room. Ds sleeps fine when his room is between 17.0 and 18.5. Above and below those he doesn't. When DH turned the heat down overnight he woke up 5 times. Once the heat was turned back up he slept through again.

Oh wow that sounds exhausting, I think I would cave in and either get in her bed with her or put her in mine. TBH my middle dc used to wake up every night once he was moved into a bed and would make his way into our bed, half the time we didn't even know about it until he woke us up in the morning! It lasted until he went to school and then he just stopped by himself, I was working and there was no way I could stay awake for that long and then do a days work!

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We are thinking if changing her cot to a bed so if she wants to wander in she can. She loves her bed and thus is why we haven't changed it yet. We have had a lot going on recently and this could be the problem.

Poor you

Poor DD

Poor NDN

Put her in your bed at least to minimise the screaming. That's not really very fair at all on anyone.

Sleep training maybe or take her to the gp to see if there is an underlying issue.

It's odd. It's not just screaming. She's playing too and clapping etc. Trouble is we can hear it. Also it's not crying screaming just screaming for attention then playing.

I second changing to a toddler bed. Our DD always hated her cot, we moved her to a bed at about 18 months. Best thing we ever did!