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AIBU or is she: Broken Promises

20 replies

faithinthesound · 13/10/2017 11:44

Scenario: I finished work at a quarter after nine tonight. I messaged my friend D, and after a brief back and forth, she said she'd call me in about half an hour, because her phone was dying and she needed to get home to plug it in.

Twenty past ten, nothing. I message her, asking if she's home yet/okay. "Yeah, I just got talking to Y, won't be long" (Y is her roommate).

It's now twenty to midnight, and still nothing. If she calls now, I won't be picking up (it's too late now as my roommate is sleeping).

So I guess, is she unreasonable for not doing what she said she would, or am I unreasonable for being frustrated that she didn't tell Y that she'd said she would call me, and could they (D and Y) talk later?

Note: This is not a huge deal and I know that. I'm not angry or considering unfriending her, and the only reason I'd reject the call if she tries tonight is because it's got really late and people here are sleeping, not to "teach her a lesson" or anything so petty! I think I'm as annoyed as I am largely because I'm tired, but I do think there's an element of rudeness here on her part.

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 13/10/2017 12:26

Was it an urgent call?

Raver84 · 13/10/2017 12:28

She was busy doing other things it's really not a big deal at all!

mintteaandbananabread · 13/10/2017 12:31

Really? Really?

Broken promises?

God, people are such hard work!

Allthebestnamesareused · 13/10/2017 12:31

YABU

She got caught up doing something else.

Unless you specifically told her you needed to speak to her about something urgent/important your catch up was not as important to her as it was to you.

You'll be even more unreasonable if you reject her call today in revenge!

SparklyMagpie · 13/10/2017 12:33

There are worse things than this to be getting worked up about.

YABU

MarmaladeIsMyJam · 13/10/2017 12:34

Broken promises? That seems a little dramatic. Was it very urgent? Did you tell her it was urgent?

Whambarsarentasfizzyastheywere · 13/10/2017 12:39

Sometimes life gets in the way of plans. It really isn't that big a deal. Is there a massive back story here that's making you so sensitive?

Witsender · 13/10/2017 12:40

Unless you were mid discussing a crisis I wouldn't really worry about it.

VladmirsPoutine · 13/10/2017 12:44

Unless there is a huge backstory here you are being not only unreasonable but hugely dramatic.

NoMoreRoomOnTheBroom · 13/10/2017 12:47
Hmm
pasturesgreen · 13/10/2017 12:47

Jesus Christ! She said she'd call you back but got caught up in something else, that hardly qualifies as a 'broken promise' Confused

Unless there's going to be a massive drip feed, I'd suggest you unclench a bit, OP.

Hollystyrene · 13/10/2017 13:05

... Or maybe the thing she was talking to Y about was complicated/personal/involved the flat/couldn't be put off?

diddl · 13/10/2017 13:06

I think that's quite rude.

I realise that it's possible to get sidetracked, but OP contacted again after an hr, & then an hr & a half after that the phone call still hadn't happenedConfused

I should imagine she has decided it's too late to call & gone to bed-if not still chatting to Y!

PinkyBlunder · 13/10/2017 13:11

Oh my goodness. What is it with the over dramatic 'friends' on MN today?!

I must be the spawn of Satan because sometimes it takes me days to reply to a text message Grin

faithinthesound · 13/10/2017 13:25

Everyone saying I'm being uptight over not very much at all, please read the last paragraph of my OP. I know that. I'm tired and annoyed, not paranoid delusional.

Additionally, as I said, if I reject the call now it will not be for petty revenge, it will be because it's very late and there are people here who are sleeping.

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 13/10/2017 13:26

But sometimes things crop up and you can't do what you'd said you'd do.
So was it an important call or just for a chat?

If the latter then you are overreacting.

teaandtoast · 13/10/2017 13:29

I would think she couldn't be bothered to speak to you.

faithinthesound · 13/10/2017 13:32

We haven't spoken for a few weeks, so this was supposed to be the big catch up - the big catch up that she scheduled.

OP posts:
NoMoreRoomOnTheBroom · 13/10/2017 13:33

"like, why are you so obsessed with me"
Regina George

teaandtoast · 13/10/2017 13:41

That's a shame. Sounds like you've drifted apart?

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