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Year 7 parents need to let go

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Angelicinnocent · 12/10/2017 18:57

We live quite rurally and about a third of the children at our secondary school get dropped off by car in a morning (around 450), the rest either walk as they live locally or get the bus. So many get dropped off because the bus from the villages in one direction would need them at the bus stop for 6.45 and at school at 7.30. Next bus is 2 hours later.

Less get picked up as there is a well timed bus that goes to many of the villages.

There isn't a car park at the school, just a circular drive through area and everyone drives in, stops at the kerb for a moment to let the children out and then goes on their way. There is room for about 10 cars at a time and since people space their arrivals over about 30 minutes, it works.

First couple of days of term, we always get a glut of new year 7 parents who wait to see their child go through the school doors before they drive off but we've all been there and had that "oh it's big school" moment so nobody minds and by the second week it's back to normal.

This year however, we have a group of 8 or 9 year 7 parents parking their cars in the drop off area and walking their child to the gate then making them wait until the others turn up. They then send all the children through the gate together and stand watching until they get through the doors.

The children look embarrassed and some of them try to go straight in but the parents won't let them. In the meantime, over half of the spaces for people to drop off children are taken up by these parents.

School have sent texts and a letter out telling people they can't park there but to no avail.

Aibu to think that it's over a month into the term, it's time these parents loosened the apron strings.

OP posts:
Ironfloor · 12/10/2017 21:23

Op, I'm guessing you haven't heard of the Kyron Horman case then?

Cel982 · 12/10/2017 21:28

Op, I'm guessing you haven't heard of the Kyron Horman case then?

Ironfloor, are you really suggesting that an isolated American case of child abduction, where a family member has been strongly implicated, should influence parental behaviour around school drop-offs? That's ludicrous.

It does seem nuts, OP. Even in primary school we were just dropped to the gates and made our own way in. The school needs to act on it quickly.

Angelicinnocent · 12/10/2017 21:53

Just to be clear, I'm not suggesting that they should be making their children walk by themselves. I am talking about dropping them off at the gates instead of parking and making their child wait with them at the gates until the bell rings.

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Tiredtomybones · 12/10/2017 22:43

Thank you Arch for the explanation of apron strings. I've always wondered about the origin of the phrase.

OP YANBU.

BertrandRussell · 12/10/2017 22:46

"Op, I'm guessing you haven't heard of the Kyron Horman case then?"

I have. Why is it relevant?

Trampire · 12/10/2017 23:17

My dd is Y8 at a rural school. We have exactly the same system for drop off. It works well. The only difference is there are School mini buses and coaches driving up to drop off. I tend not to use the buses as they're really expensive and I work from home so I can drive. Ok on the odd occasion though.

I pull in, dd jumps out. She's embarrassed if I even look at her as I drive off Grin.

I agree waiting with your Y7 child is helping anyone, least of all the child.

OverbearingHouseSitter · 13/10/2017 00:33

YNBU.

I know some kids can be bolters or refuse to go to school, but if this is the case the parents need to make arrangements with the school to rectify the issue or arrange a supervised drop off.

You can't just park where you want outside a school. It's for safety reasons fgs.

We recently almost had a kid run over (in fact he was hit lightly by the car, just slightly) as some idiot parked on the double yellow lines AND school crossing and the child couldn't see crossing the road properly. He then got hit by a parent who didn't see him crossing.

Luckily he's okay but can people not see that parking restrictions are in place for a reason and not just to be awkward?

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