To find these coments horrible in this day and age

[Pickledonion24]

I don’t often look on the daily mail but today I did I came across this article. She was saying how men used to come on to her on linkden so she changed her name to mrs. When reading the comments on the article. People where saying what did she expect with a photo like that and good look getting a male to give you a job

There is some distance between ‘not the outfit I would have chosen’ and ‘deserves to be sexually harassed on a work related website’. I wouldn’t have chosen that picture either, although I facilitate and have worn similar at work. Doesn’t mean she deserves to be harassed.

Hitting on people on Linkedin is far less appropriate than an unprofessional picture.

No, and as I have said, she can wear what she likes and does not 'deserve' to be harassed. However, if I pose scantily clad on a networking site, it is far more likely that I will be the target of pervs and it would be a bit disingenuous of me to act surprised when this happens. Doesn't mean I deserve it, but if I wanted to avoid it, it would be better to change the photo rather than add 'Mrs' to my name. An unprofessional photo on a professional website could suggest that maybe you're not there entirely for work purposes. Harassing people on linkedin is wrong, but anyone can set up a random profile, so it's quite hard to police it.

2 wrongs don't make a right.

if anyone comes into the office dressed like this woman, I would send her straight to HR for a reminder of what is acceptable in an office environment.

She doesn't deserve to be harassed, but the fact that she chose the pic and went into the DM doesn't give very strong signals in her favour.

What an inappropriate photo

She’s hardly ‘scantily clad’ . She’s showing one shoulder. While being young and pretty. Which I think is actually the issue.

Well, she is showing a shoulder and there is no bra strap visible, suggesting she is not wearing a bra. She would not be allowed to wear that in most business/corporate environments. Yes, she is young and pretty and obviously that also increases the amount of interest you get on sites like linkedin. It's not a problem and she does not deserve abuse but she cannot be surprised that a picture like that invites some sort of attention. It would be great on a dating website for instance. But there is a reason why we use different photos for linkedin and dating sites. Also a reason why we wear different clothes on a date to what we would at work.

You can use the misogyny line as much as you like. I am as feminist as they come- I research in feminist theory in fact. I would say exactly the same to a guy wearing an unbuttoned shirt grinning suggestively in his linkedin picture. I would say it's unprofessional, will attract the wrong attention and that if he were serious about business networking, he would change it, not just write MARRIED in his title (given that men's titles do not depend on marital status).

Looking in the DM?

If you open a bucket of shit expect the room to stink?

Almost everyone I know on Linked in has a profile picture of them wearing a suit and smiling without teeth showing to camera, and a plain background. It's a professional site. I wouldn't hire a man who put up a photo of himself wearing a wife beater and looking like a CK model either. It speaks to a certain lack of judgement. Well, unless your job is underwear model.

Every website (including Mumsnet) has a bunch of people who use the anonymity that internet provides to spew out throughts that they will never share in their real life.

While being young and pretty. Which I think is actually the issue.

I assure you that all workers in my office would be treated equally, and young/old/male/female/pretty/less pretty would be equally told off for exposing their shoulders.

It won't ever be tolerated for a man to wear anything exposing his calves, whilst women can wear skirts or knee-length (smart) shorts without issue. Come on, we all know what looking professional means.

See my nickname.

but - are there men looking like CK models on LinkedIn, and do they actually get flack for it? yes this particular photo is not a good fit for LI, but given how fine the line is, it's not that surprising that people cross it one way or the other.