Who's being unreasonable? Me or DH?

[PhDPepper]

DH has just been sick. Loudly enough to wake me up and he was downstairs and I was in bed. He’s got back into bed.

He’s insisting he’ll be going into work today. Infecting everyone with his sick germs, he says his job is too busy to take a day off sick.

He is going to have client meetings, court and be in the office all day. I said he’s unreasonable for going in and infecting people (potentially) he says I’m unreasonable for taking a day off if I’m sick (vomit) but I’m a nurse and if I went in with D&V all hell would break loose!

Yeah he went to work. I think I was a bit mean so I’ll make it up to him when he gets home

"Today 09:25 LoniceraJaponica

I can't believe you said that Kity hmm
It sounds like he has norovirus. It is horrible and very contagious, and could make anyone vulnerable seriously ill hmm

The OP is a nurse. If she contracts it and goes to work with it there could be very very serious consequences. Don't you ever read the news?"

😂 All we know is he's been sick four times. Literally hundreds of things can contribute to that, yet you have diagnosed noro via a third party account on the net?

Also unsure what OP maybe catching it (who lives with him) has to do with whether or not he misses work surely if he had noro he's better off away from the woman who comes into contact with patients?

Like I say, the world would grind to a halt if everyone who'd been sick stayed off work when they felt otherwise okay to go in. And whatever we/you/OP thinks, as an adult and the only one who knows how he feels he can make that decision for himself.

I don't think he's being unreasonable. He's trying his best not to let anyone down. You're just viewing it differently and are making calls you feel are most appropriate for your workplaces.

Sounds like noro, especially if he's had known contact with a suspicious case. Annoying, embarrassing etc to call in sick... But its the right thing to do... If it continues passing from person to person it could hold the case up longer in the end plus extremely unpleasant for anyone he gives it to

I reckon if he's a solicitor and they have counsel someone else could support the client. So yanbu.

I am a barrister (crime) and it would be common for us to go on really sick, unless you thought your client's would be disadvantaged by you being there.