Should I let my in laws take my son on holiday?

[kitscout]

My Partner works away during the week and my in laws are going to stay nearby for a week. I work part time but have no leave left to go too - DP asked if they could take our son (20 months) with them for the week to see him.

I immediately said no as he will be working long days anyway, but honestly I just didn't want to be without him for a week!

My in laws are over bearing and DP won't get a look in with our son anyway. But now I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable and /or selfish? Should I let them take him?

Not at this age. 1 maybe 2 nights max. They can take him for longer when he's older and you'll probably be glad of the break!

The most ds has stayed away from me or his dad (separated) has been 3 nights with grandparents, and he's 9!

A 20 month old is challenging on the best of days, and they need constant supervision. I would be very concerned about your In-laws being capable of running after a child that age all day for days on end and remembering just how intensive it is to care for a child that age.

Aqua

Just remember some of us in laws and grandparents arnt 80 we have grandchildren and are 50! We are fit and well able but don’t want to.

But I couldn’t sgeee more we did all that with our own 5 kids.

One night with us is Lovely but a week!! no way on gods earth.

I had dc2 when dc1 was that age. Dc1 was absolutely beside himself when I was in hospital and he stayed with his familiar, much loved granny. I wouldn't do it. I don't know why people are always so keen to separate small kids from their primary carers. I looked after a friends dd at that age and she looked at me sadly and said "mummy...mummy...mummy...mummy" she didn't understand her mum had to do something.

@Theresamayscough

Lol. I'm in my mid-40s myself, and my "kids" are 18 and 20. I absolutely know that many grandparents aren't even close to "old", but the years DO make a difference. I was around a little for a day not long ago and I was laughing on the inside wondering how I survived it when my kids were so little and you literally can't sit down all day. My mother was and is very youthful and healthy, but she used to say all the time when my kids were little how exhausting they were.