To feel uneasy and question my husband about this

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Both me and my husband are on Facebook. We have separate accounts and I usually use my phone and him the iPad but on my phone for some reason it has linked our accounts and all you need to do is click on the profile picture to get on and it doesn't require a password (it does on the iPad). So a couple of weeks back I clicked on to Facebook but accidentally clicked on to my husband's and there was a friend request. I'm not nosey or snoop usually but she clicked on expecting to see someone I knew and it was a girl all dressed in suspenders and corset bent over a vanity unit. Now I no my husband watches porn occasionally and absolutely have no problem with this but getting friend requests from "real" women is another thing.

I didn't go mad and decided to just ask my husband about it. He made it into a joke at first and laughed it off but the more i probed he the more he got into a strop and kind of stormed off. To be honest I didn't think much more of it as my husband is an honest person usually and knows he can tell me anything but then it's happened again today. Same thing, a friend request from some young girl. This time there were two links on her page which I clicked on. One was a porn site and the other a chat site advertising girls. Again I've asked my husband about it and he's just laughed it off saying he's asked his mates at work and they've had the same. Like I said I don't mind him watching a bit of porn here and there but this makes me uneasy.

Our own sex life isn't great at the minute as he's always working and I'm always shattered but we've gone long periods before and always been fine. We've been together years still make each other laugh, are very loving towards each other etc and previously if you asked me if I trust him I'd say 100% so I don't like doubting him. I mean as far as I'm aware people don't just friend request random people. I've been on Facebook for years and the only random requests I've had are from people promoting things like juice plus and Avon and have never had anything like this. I suppose I'm just wondering if my husband has just had a random request and there's nothing untoward or has he signed up to some site and somehow his Facebook has been linked. Any advice?

Is his profile public or private? The reason I ask is because on my personal facebook which is private I don't get any random requests. However I have a work facebook which has only one photo of me on there and I get friend requested by strangers all the time.

The profiles are usually men, in the American forces, with a handful of female friends and a couple of posts on their walls. I have one atleast once a month. They are clearly phishing so just delete and block.

I get a lot of random men trying to add me.

I get most of the bots adding me on twitter and Instagram, its scary how many of them a day. I changed my settings but they still show up!

I get friend requests from men definitely just wanting sex, it says quite clearly on my profile that I'm married with 4 children.

My account is pretty locked down and I get these.
I suspect he's got shitty about it because he's being accused of cheating.

Oh pudding, it didn't occur to me that they might be bots! Do they target women too?

I have it so I can only get friends requests from 'friends of friends' and even I've got a couple of them after male friends have accepted their friends requests.

They're bloody annoying.

I've your settings are set so only friends of friends can send friend requests this can't happen.

Most people who you actually want to accept you know through a friend anyway and if you don't, you can either friend them or put you settings down and then back up after.

I suggest he does this because I really wouldn't want to see them and worry about it if I were you

ClothEaredBint

Fab cross post. I think I'd start deleting friends if that happened!

I have had these too on twitter and by email they are just random bots sent out to fish for subscribers.

Just block and move on.

I think your problems run deeper than a friend request on fb.
Why are you on his fb? Get off it!!

I get random blokes from India friend requesting me from time to time.

What makes it more likely to happen is if he comments on - for example - news stories on Facebook. I got a couple of friend requests from random guys after I commented on a Washington Post story recently.

The supposed girl's FB page is just promoting a paid adult service - a bot/low paid worker in the Philippines is literally just sitting there friend-requesting white (or whatever) males under the age of 40 (or whatever) all day.

My other half gets this all the time. The profiles are normally blank and have photos of very fit sexy looking women.
Just ignore it

I get random friend requests and adverts on Facebook, all spam, that I've no idea how I've generated. Usually it is connected to what I've searched for, but there do appear to be times when it's totally random. The other day I got an advert for a product that is worth about twice what my home cost. I've got no idea why an algorithm decided I was the sort of person who would want or could afford that, because it couldn't have been more wrong!

I get them in my emails, sometimes as friend requests, and some say inbox, also get them from Russian brides,why i dont know,im a woman!!

Well the fact that he deleted her reply and wouldn't tell you what she said is a bit suspect.

Do you know her name? Could you message her from your account?

But I do occasionally get these. One or two a year though.

Well the fact that he deleted her reply and wouldn't tell you what she said is a bit suspect

You don't need to tell your partner about every bot who spams you. FFS.

And he got cross because essentially she was accusing him of cheating after snooping in his Facebook account. I would be pissed off too.