flatmates girlfriend pretty much lives here

[lumleyy]

I live with my DP, we both pay for rent and bills, not long ago a new flatmate moved in( so just 3 of us in a 2 bed flat ) and he met a girl who all of a sudden is always here, stays 4/5 nights a week, is rude, noisy, often having loud arguments and both are not at all respectful of other people living here. AIBU to be annoyed about this? she doesn’t pay any rent but has stayed here for about 70% of the time he’s lived here. when i brought it up was told she is here as a guest and she shouldn’t pay rent and there’s no problem with it.

If she has keys, the landlord should know about it.

Is your DP bothered? If he's the lead tenant he ought to deal with this. By giving notice if needs be.

She has keys, stays 4 or 5 nights and comes and goes as and when she likes - she is not a guest, she has effectively moved in so the landlord should be informed that this has occurred. You need to make it clear that you have not, do not and will not agree to this change.

You can tell your co-tenant that she is NOT allowed to live there and that actually she can’t have keys and come and go.

If he doesn’t stop it, tell the landlord

Why haven't you spoken to your landlord?

You do realise that by her having a set of keys/coming and going as she pleases that any home insurance you have is invalid?

Toughen up and get this dealt with instead of whingeing on here about it.

She has keys, she pays.
Either decide that everything gets split down the middle 1/2 you two, half him and her- and you deal with the personality and rudeness.
OR
Tell your flatmate to move out and get another place.
OR
Tell the landlord, assuming he is aware of you living there.

And
tell your flatmate that guests and fish stink after 3 days, and that it's getting silly now.

You & DP move out. Nothing else you can do. I wouldn't get into it. If you really want to stay then telling the landlord there's an extra tenant who isn't paying rent should sort it. But then you know that. Its up to you if you can live with the bad feeling it will cause. If you can't its still back to the same thing - move out

You sound very young. Using your toothbrush and your towel? That kind of stuff only happens in young sharehouses. Just move out, get another room somewhere else.

The loud arguments would be enough for me to want them both out of the flat.

i’ve informed the landlord as soon as i found out she has keys and she is 25/26 and he’s the same age. Rent is split 3 ways as are bills and electricity bill has increased since she started staying. Flatmate won’t listen and can’t afford to move atm so have told landlord

You may have created an illegal HMO and the landlord may have to evict the lot of you.

You've said that tenancy is in your DP's name, yet not once (and despite me asking) have you said whether he's bothered by this situation! You've only said how much it annoys you (rightly). I hope he's on side with you - it will be easier to deal with if you're both dealing with it

sorry it was one reply within a big load of them i did not see. Yes if anything he’s more angry than me about it

That's good - but horrible for you to have to live with people so blatantly in the wrong! Not a nice environment at all.

he’s said he’s moving out to live with her family ( after knowing her 2 months ) but has given us 5 days to find someone else to move in before rent is due despite him having to give 28 days notice, he’s not paid bills and is desperate to leave before the rent is due so guessing he’s running away because he can’t afford it. He should pay his rent in 5 days and then we would have 4 weeks to find someone but he’s insisting on wanting someone to move in asap. Partner and I want to choose who moves in obviously but he’s taken it upon himself to look for someone, putting up ads with incorrect information on about dates and rent price etc and letting any randomer come and view the flat without us having any say. don’t know what i’m getting from writing this just needed to rent and he’s fucked us over now!

@darkfruits are you the Op with a name change? Or OPs DP?!

name change sorry haha didn’t realise!!

Report to MNHQ, they can change it

I’d speak to the ll straight away about this as he needs to know, and the bloke needs to pay his share... or she pays it...

If hems on the conttact he's surely loable for his part of the rent! Lamdlord will need to take him to small claims court or can he withhold the deposit?