To expect DS's friend's mother to inform me that her daughter has nits when she is coming to sleep over?

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Went to pick up DS's friend (lets call her F) this morning, for a play date / sleep over tonight. F then tells me on the way home that she had to have special shampoo as "i've got eggs in my hair". Further gentle probing confirms that she has nits.
Texted her mum (who is a very good friend & we are considering setting up a business together), who confirmed that she put some treatment on "but I don't think it's strong enough, & so & so at school says that all the kids have got them at the moment, bloody nits, isn't it a pain? blah blah blah" - no acknowledgement that she might have considered telling me first, or that now we are likely to get them.
Furthermore, I am going on holiday on Thursday so will probably be taking the little buggers to Barcelona with me. DS will be staying with Grandparents from tomorrow & therefore they will end up having to do the shampooing, combing etc etc on DS & possibly themselves too. Grandpa has Alzheimers already so quite frankly they have enough on their plate! (& said friend is aware of all this, or would be had she bothered to think about it)

God, I feel itchy already...Grrrr!

one of my pet hates / phobias. VERY incosiderate not to tell you in advance.

DS in my original post should be DD, as she is indeed female... Sorry, not quite got the hang of this acronym business yet {blush]

No, not unreasonable, I would be cross had I not been warned. At least with a warning you can keep an eye on contact levels!

not unreasonable at all..she should have told you and then let you decide if the sleepover would continue etc.

It seems very odd the way that some people just totally ignore the fact that their children have nits!! Not unreasonable.

not unreasonable, she should postpone until nits are gone.

I can see your point but we had them jumping from one dd to another for about 5 years non-stop and I probably forgot to mention it to other mums because they became part of life and you do get a bit blase about them.

Not very nice for you though.

not unreasonable

Thanks all, feel less grumpy knowing that I'm not on my own here! I know nits are rife, but these 2 children only started school last Sept, & I think this is the first time for both of them.

No, not unreasonable, the slovenly antisocial cow

defo should have let you know..
would be a little concerned going into business with said women.(unless it was nit farming!)

if she just washed with the shampoo 5 minutes before going, then surely that would have killed all the live ones wouldnt it? looking on the bright side.

I get this all the time with my sons' friends.
I frequently have to inform people their children have nits but am never convinced they're really going to get in there and start combing!!

No, not unreasonable at all. Its like taking a child with obvious chicken pox out in public, I don't want ds infected, why do they think its ok?

It's only nits.... it takes 2 weeks to fully 'break' an infestation.

Should she and her child stay indoors for the duration?

Greensleeves: Slovenly?? Are you taking the piss?

If I knew the DSs had nits, I wouldn't let them go round to someone else's until I'd done the comb and conditioner thing which removes all the ones which are big enough to crawl onto someone else's head.