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AIBU?

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Original poster

To enjoy being in hospital?

122 replies

onefortheroadplease · 08/10/2017 22:23

Am I really weird to enjoy being in hospital?

I have recently had an overnight stay for a minor operation, and the whole build up to the operation, plus the stay and recovery afterwards, I have really enjoyed Confused

I love having an atheistic, love the wooziness afterwards, plus the lovely sleep drifting in and out of consciousness.

I love having cups of tea brought to me, and being able to legitimately have a nice rest.

Obviously it goes without saying that if I was in hospital for something serious it would be horrific and scary, and I would find it terrifying and want to be anywhere but hospital.

So AIBU to feel this way?

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spidey66 · 09/10/2017 09:41

I had a hysterectomy a couple of years back and was disappointed when they discharged me after 2 days. I was getting into it (and enjoying the morphine).

CuppaSarah · 09/10/2017 09:45

I did enjoy my stay after ds. I had a private room, hourly observations, amazing food, a private bathroom(by luck it wasn't actually private, but there was no one sharing while I was in) as it was Christmas I got a lot of fussing too.

We took a trip to the cafe on boxing day and were fussed so much by everyone. It felt very special.

TheFairyCaravan · 09/10/2017 09:54

I can't stand it. I dread my consultant saying "we'll bring you in and do...".

I rarely stay more than one night even after fairly major surgery. I hate the smells, the food is awful, it's noisy, I don't sleep, the lights give me a headache.

I just want to get in, get it done and get home as quickly as possible. There's nothing like my own bed.

wannabestressfree · 09/10/2017 10:02

I know this is a lighthearted thread but if you are properly ill hospital is scary, unpleasant and keeps me away from those I love. I have had 24 operations, I live on morphine at home and am due to start chemo again on Wednesday. I am having life extending treatment now and have been ill for over ten years. It’s robbed me of most of my adult life. It’s no life.

I do understand the need for a break :)

Original poster
onefortheroadplease · 09/10/2017 10:10

I'm sorry Wannabe, I really didn't mean to make anyone feel bad or undermine people with genuine illnesses.

That sounds horrific, and I really hope that your chemo is successful Flowers

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Mammyloveswine · 09/10/2017 10:15

I had a two week stay aged 21.. was really poorly with a dvt and pulmonary embolism but I must admit to enjoying the fuss! I felt very nervous when I was discharged! More recently I had a week long stay with a breast abscess when my son was only 7 weeks... my husband took no time off work to help (his new job would insist!) and it wasn't quite the same.. but the staff where amazing and made me a special breakfast as i was in on my first mothers day. Plus they did take it turns to try and settle my baby who was allowed to stay as I was still breastfeeding off my non-damaged breast!

Janika · 09/10/2017 10:16

Loved it. Nice to get away from the humdrum and have a good rest. Oh yes did have major surgery and lots of cannulas and poked a lot, but managed to wangle 6 days in there. Bliss. Well looked after. Made a very good friend who I am in contact with now- we did lots of people watching together and are now supporting each other through chemo.

wannabestressfree · 09/10/2017 10:29

@onefortheroadplease I wasn’t being funny I do get it :)

BillBrysonsBeard · 09/10/2017 10:39

I didn't enjoy it after my c-sections as I could barely move, lots of pain and having a newborn to look after but I really enjoyed it when I stayed for two weeks 10 years ago! I had gallstones, went into hospital after an attack but then felt great the day after as I stopped eating anything fatty straight away. But they kept me in for two weeks and I was absolutely fine.. what a waste of a bed. I loved the rest and having meals and cups of tea brought to me Grin

guilty100 · 09/10/2017 10:43

Didn't J K Rowling admit to trying to break her own arm in order to have a release from the pressure of writing and some time to herself?

I think it's terrible that women feel so burdened by responsibility and care that they need to be ill in order to take some time out for themselves. But I suspect many, many women are like this. Perhaps we need to be better at drawing lines and saying no.

As you say, it's not the same as being properly, scarily ill, though. Flowers for all those who are suffering in that way.

ShoesHaveSouls · 09/10/2017 12:34

I think it's terrible that women feel so burdened by responsibility and care that they need to be ill in order to take some time out for themselves. But I suspect many, many women are like this.

Yes. And yes, that was the exact reason for me. I was pregnant, and had a (very demanding) toddler. DH worked long hours. I was just very busy and tired. I was taken into hospital for 2 nights for a pregnancy issue, and just had total rest, sleep and people bringing me food and cups of tea. The mental strain of caring for toddler was handed over completely to Dh. I will add that it was nothing serious, no threat to the baby or anything.

It also had the added bonus of DH saying "I don't know how you get any housework done!" and showing a new found respect for my role.

We have 3 dc now, all at school, and sometimes I wish I could hand over the mental strain of organising who has to be where, and when - and what has to be done, and by when etc etc just for a couple of nights again!

EvilDoctorBallerinaVampireDuck · 09/10/2017 12:36

YANBU, but I was very bored after about 2 days.

formerbabe · 09/10/2017 16:23

I think it's terrible that women feel so burdened by responsibility and care that they need to be ill in order to take some time out for themselves. But I suspect many, many women are like this.

Completely agree.

Its one of the reasons, I hate the way women are discharged from hospital just hours after giving birth. Perish the thought we could just rest up and recouperate heh?!

BaskingTrout · 09/10/2017 17:01

i haven't rtft but I was admitted at 38 weeks because ds was an unstable lie. I had a week lying around in bed and watching the Olympics on tv rather than heaving my enormous self after 2yo dd in the middle of summer. 3 meals a day, an almost empty ward, visits from friends and family and nothing really wrong with me. it was ace. and I had another 5 days post section, which was a bit less fun and a bit more painful, but I had a squishy newborn to make up for it!!
I did feel like a total fraud seeing women who were having very complicated and stressful pregnancies though.

kaytee87 · 09/10/2017 17:03

Before I had a child I would have thought you were mad but now I totally get you Grin

IHaveBrilloHair · 09/10/2017 17:07

I hate, hate hate it, and that's with my own room, fridge, TV, WiFi, Dyson fan etc.
I know I'm in there because I'm very ill, there's always at least one nasty HCP and I just want to be at home.
As soon as I can walk and manage without oxygen I discharge myself.

littlemissneela · 09/10/2017 17:08

I enjoyed the being looked after, and having meals brought to me Blush I was in quite a bit over the years, so got to know what food to avoid and what would be ok.

TinselTwins · 09/10/2017 17:38

Hospital food is bad in a good stodgy/salty way, and I

Floralnomad · 09/10/2017 20:40

The food in the hospital I was in was way worse than any school dinner I remember . The vegetables were boiled to death and basically devoid of colour and taste and the rest wasn't much better . Fortunately for me I have not eaten a proper meal since May so at least I didn't miss anything . I tried a whole variety from a roast , cheese flan , penne bolognaise and the highlight on my last day was cauliflower cheese and chips which whilst being the best of a bad bunch the chips were completely overlooked . I only eat about 3 forkfuls of a meal and even that was too many ! Most days my visitors bought me a ham and cheese toastie from the onsite Costa which was nice but quite expensive when most of it is going in the bin .

BakedBeans47 · 09/10/2017 20:43

I don’t think I would be averse to it if I had my own room.

Couldn’t be doing with other people’s snoring though

abigailgabble · 09/10/2017 23:10

I love having a fuss made of me. I loved all the midwife attention and nice ladies being concerned about me during pregnancy. i felt so safe. i miss the midwives.

IHaveBrilloHair · 10/10/2017 08:26

Tinsel I do love the ginger sponge and custard!

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