Who IS being unreasonable?

[ContraryFairy]

Person A puts some veggie sausages in a frying pan in the hob for person B.

Busy chaotic lunch. Rushing to drop kids all over etc. Person B does a drop off, person A leaves Kitchen. Kids do dishwasher.

Lunch over.

Person B returns, takes the sausages out of the pan and eats them.

4 hours on...

Get home. Kitchen hot. Pan still on.

Who is in the wrong for leaving the pan on? A or B?

TIA!

Both! You don't just leave a frying pan on. It shouldn't have been left unattended at all.

Ye both are gobshites for leaving the pan on. Person B is more in the wrong though.

Both. Person A left the pan on and person B didn’t notice and left pan on.

Don’t leave pans unattended that’s just daft.

Both but more person A. If you start cooking something you don't stop without "handing over" to someone else. But person B could have checked the heat was off when he/she ate them.

If B removed the food from the pan that was the point at which it should have been turned off - so B is at fault.

Both. You should have both checked the cooker before leaving the house.

Both- person A should have said pan was on. Person B should have double checked.

Lucky it's just a hot pan. Both need to learn from this and stop being so careless. You could lose you home or even your lives if you are this slack over fire safety.

Between the two of you, you'll burn the house down one day. It's weird to wander off halfway through cooking sausages. Also odd to remove sausages from a hot pan without turning the heat off, first.

Both people are wrong, B more than A: Person B for being a knobend who repeatedly fails to turn hobs off and apparently doesn't learn their lesson, and Person A for leaving the food unattended and then not checking that their idiot husband had actually turned the hob off.

I mean yes, in an ideal world our partners wouldn't be feckless glares at DH but equally, if you know there's a chance the house might burn down, you do need to check.

Person B is still an idiot, though, whereas A is mostly guilty of slight inattention.

Person B - the person who dishes up checks the gas is off.

Thank you. You're absolutely right. It's careless and dangerous and very worrying. At the end of the day, it's an accident and no one would've done it on purpose.

All was well and no harm done. I think it was just person B's reaction- total defiance that it's not his fault- must have been mine as I started cooking them. It's like saying shitting the door is my responsibility and not his, because I opened it and he followed. Of course, we both should check, but it's naff argument.

You're right, stupid to argue; silly mistake- I just get so cheesed off with a) having to feed everyone all the time b) do something different for him c) remind/explain to a grown man (else nothing gets done properly) d) get nagged but shot down when I play it back.

He's not all bad! (Is have accepted if it was me bu too)

We used to have an ‘on deck’ system with DD so we would say, “are you on deck?” before we wandered off. I would do the same with a hot pan. No one should leave a pan unattended without telling the other person.

TBH I put his sausages on and thought no more of it. I fed the kids and I something different. Weird, cos I'm usually neurotic, double checking lights/iron/tumble drier etc off and checking doors 2/3 times. I didn't go back in the kitchen after I'd finished my lunch and I shouldn't really have to ask a grown man if he's switch the hob off!

I don't now how old your children are, but I would be concerned that they are in the kitchen unloading the dishwasher with an unattended frying pan.You are lucky someone didn't suffer a burn.

The solution is clearly to feed you and the kids and just let him sort himself out

Lady- they're old enough and the pan was at the back etc etc. We are talking a couple of minutes- but you're right, of course.

Thanks Terry. I think you're right. But when he feeds himself, it's eggs on toast- and look what happens 😂

At least it won't be your fault though!

My DP is forever leaving the oven on. He did it this evening - took his food out, left the dial on at 200 & switched on at the wall. Drives me nuts. But of course every time you ask them to remember to turn it off, you get accused of nagging

Person B sounds an idiot, if they regularly do this. But person A is silly to leave them in charge of food that's on the hob if it's a distinct possibility that they will forget. They'd be demoted to microwave meals only in my house, if being left in sole charge of the kitchen.

I should've just turned it off when we got in and I realised, apparently, and not' even made a fuss. Like that'll help!