Hi,
I'm due to give birth next week. I have one sister who I have a very difficult relationship with. Sometimes we get on in a very shallow way for short periods-she lives abroad so only see each other now and again. At times she's treated me awfully. I've never trusted her (My husband knows all this and has said the same himself). The other day she said some very, very hurtful things-I've not spoken to her since. My husband was very supportive at the time.
My marriage is in an awful state. He's acted very selfishly. I'm really worried what will happen baby is born.
We've argued a lot.
I've just found out that last week when we had a big argument (personally I'd say we didn't argue but he was selfish and nasty towards me) he left the house and called my sister. I'm so hurt. I know she will share this information with other people. I suspect she will have loved being told and I'm not even speaking to her.
In my mind you don't confide in partners family about marriage problems...especially when you aren't speaking!
He says he spoke to my sister coz he wanted 'unbiased support and that it's no different to me talking to my best friend.
This feels like the last straw. I would hugely appreciate advice on how to stay calm and relax when I feel so stressed and anxious. I need to get through next few days/ weeks. Don't want baby to be affected by my stress levels.
I can't work out how we can function together without lots of nastiness.
I don't want him anywhere near me at the moment. I don't know how we get through even the first few weeks of being parents.
Obviously leaving him is is not practical at the moment.
I would hugely appreciate support. I'm falling apart and worried how my stress must be affecting baby.