AIBU

[Hookeslaw]

My boyfriend is going on a stag night to Germany. He is best man.

The stag wants to go to a lap dancing club as lots of the others are wanting to go too.

Boyfriend says he has no interest. Has never been to one and says if I really hate it he won’t go but he would like it if I would be ok with him going in as part of the crowd but will under no circumstances get a dance.

I hate everything about them. I just do and actually don’t want him to go anywhere near one.

Hypercritically though I went to a hen night a few months ago in a cottage. The hen had a butler in the buff. I don’t like this either. Not my thing but did I get up and leave and sit in my room?No I sat at the back of the room chatted to another friend and read my phone.

So am I being unreasonable seeing as I went with the crowd? Will a one off hurt?
He knows a dance would be the end. But I don’t get the whole I am so sad I need to titillate with naked women thing and buy consent.
Each to their own though but its not for me or anyone I want to be with.

Aghh AIBU?

Why does a special night have to involve naked people? It just seems as sad as anything too me.

Your post makes me sad prosecco. I don't know of any stag dos in the last 15 years or so that have involved strippers, what kind of men do you hang out with?

Why he he even asking you. He's a grown adult with his own mind and ability to make own decisions. This just seems like passing the buck to you.

One rule for you and your friends another for him and his

How so mum? You'd have to pretty simple not to see the difference between the two scenarios, even ignoring the OP didn't participate in the hen do.

One rule for you and your friends another for him and his

Not at all, its the same rule for both: no lap dance clubs.

Exactly!