To be a chatty sociable introvert

[splendidisolation]

I think loads of people would be really surprised to discover how much of a secret introvert I am.
On the surface I appear chatty and dare I say it "congenial", when deep down the amount of hours I'd be happy pottering around alone are boundless.

I often enjoy social events so much once I'm there, but feel like I really camt be fucked in the lead-up.

Anyone relate?

I just feel like "true" introverts are selfish. They get energy from social situations where they dont contribute much whereas you end up feeling knackered

Bollocks. True introverts do not get energy from social situations. They find them totally exhausting.

This is me.

When I'm out and about, I mostly enjoy what I'm doing, but have a mental map in my head of the days in the week when I can stay at home and not interact with anyone!

I'll dread the party and hate the party and go and hide in the corner with something to be busy with, like a box of wine! If someone does find me and introduce me to someone I'm like a rabbit in the headlights and all , yeah, um, er, hello, oh yeah [SOMEONEGETMEOUTOFHERE!!!]

Look at bit lost and confused at the bus station, though and I'll cheerfully whizz you through all your transport options. Just don't start talking to me in German or Welsh or whatever other language you've decided I must speak that day because that utterly baffles me when I've heard you speaking in perfectly plum English to other people and that feeling that accompanied the mutism I experienced as a small child sticks itself in my throat and I feel like you've wiped the floor, windows and every bus in the station with me.

Me too- enjoy chatting to people but find it draining. Have been known to just ‘shut down’ socially when I’ve hit my limit! Have to be careful not to come across as rude. Will strike up conversations with people, including strangers, but could happily go for days without talking to another soul.

Me too

Some of you people may, like me, be ambiverts:

www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2016/04/26/9-signs-that-youre-an-ambivert/

Yip this is me. I avoid social events like the plague. I've even ducked out of some family weddings!
I spend the entire week at work talking and being sociable. Weekends are for me and my family to be weirdos together!

I'm on the cusp, something like 53 extrovert, 47 introvert.

If I don't do social things/have new experiences for a while and just mooch at home, I start to feel so drained and down. Travelling to a city, going out with friends, feels like such a relief.

However after a full time of many new experiences/social events, I so so need my day at home on my own mooching in order to recharge. Then that feels like a relief.

I can totally relate to this. Although I reach a point in an evening when I definitely have to go home straight away because I have had enough of talking to other people.

And I have to spend the next day alone!