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AIBU parent at school who has been bullying my family now posts hate comments online

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Nonky · 06/10/2017 20:25

Long story but my family were bullied out of our school by one parent who was also a part time worker at the school. My daughter has asd and she would pull her daughter away from mine and say her asd was 'catching'. Despite her being an Sen TA at the school, she would talk about the children as 'thick, a waste of space'. A number of children left the school this year down to the behaviour of this person. My daughters are now happy and at a new school. I still feel that the whole saga was unfair especially as the head teacher claimed he liked me and could cope with me being cross and could see what was happening but was too scared of this other woman to do anything about it.

Her name popped up on my instagram and with it came loads and loads of 'inspiration hate' posts about 'fucking up' people who disagree with her etc etc. They were very pointed at me ( I know I could be accused of being over emotional but there was detail there that could be directed only at me). There are literally loads of them on a public forum open to anyone.

My sensible head says leave this alone. It's her own problem. My own teacher head says someone working with children just cannot behaved this way.
There is no point in me telling the current head at my daughters old school about this as he will just bury all this. Is there anything I can do? Should I do anything or should I just move on as my boys are now happy and she is clearly deranged (but I feel hurt by what she's said grrrr!)

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Nonky · 06/10/2017 21:51

Halloween star - totally spot on. Thank you!!! There is so much like this going on in the world that is covered up and the feeling of all encompassing frustration and anger when you have tried EVERY
Option available but get nowhere is a soul destroying feeling. I'm sorry you have been treated like this but in an odd way just hearing you talk about this has made me feel less alone in it all xx

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FenceSitter01 · 06/10/2017 22:06

Ofsted has nothing to do with this.

You need to go to the LA safeguard, or even MASH.

But memes and inspirational bull isn't going to get her disciplined if she hasn't put names in. This si a waiting game, eventually bullies step outside of their zone and make mistakes. That's when you screen shot and dob her in.

HalloweenStar · 06/10/2017 22:10

I'm glad I was able to help Wink and I know what you mean about feeling alone but honestly it's not just you. The injustice hasn't left me though as I'm still bothered about it to an extent even now. You wonder just how much more was said that you didn't find out about as well. In my experience these 'professionals' band together and especially when they are friends so you don't stand a chance. I can't really describe in words how it feels when you know for definite it was about you but can't get anyone to take it seriously and you can't prove it. Actually I imagine it's worse for you because far more people have the potential to see it if it was online and if you recognized yourself from what she posted then someone else might twig as well Sad

Nonky · 06/10/2017 22:18

Halloween star ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you xxx

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Stormwhale · 06/10/2017 22:20

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HalloweenStar · 06/10/2017 22:24

you're welcome Smile (and don't let her know you've seen it because then she has the satisfaction of knowing she's won) x

sunnydalegottobedone · 06/10/2017 22:28

Report to the LA. If they are an academy you can whistleblower to the education funding agency. If someone is behaving in a manner that is not appropriate for their position on social media there are routes. I concur with other posters, bypass the school, screen shot the posts and report to the LA.

sunnydalegottobedone · 06/10/2017 22:29

Whistle blow not blower Confused

WORKWORKWORKWORKWORKWORK · 06/10/2017 22:31

Depending on what is written, she very well could be in a lot of trouble. Every school nowadays has a social media policy for staff. Have a look on the government website of teachers who have faced being struck off the teachers register (sorry I’m half asleep with a migraine so not capable of linking right now Blush). Lots of teachers have been brought up to a hearing for putting things on social media that are a bit risky. Threats would be surely against the ethos of the school.

Also, the LADO team I dealt with a few years back took me extremely seriously & as they are independent to the school, may put pressure on the SLT & governors.

Please report this. For the kids, as well as the teachers.

Glad your boys are doing better.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 06/10/2017 22:42

100% start collating a few screen shots

Remember revenge is a dish best served cold - sir there like a Spider and let her incriminate herself a bit further

Also explore somewhere better to grass her to / i.e. The local LA and ofsted

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