Boyfriend didn't put my name on birthday card ..would you be bothered?

[Kellyrobinson2345]

My boyfriend and I were together 4 years then he dumped me.
After a year we got back together and then split again.
Whilst split I found out I was pregnant and got back together,when he was born he moved in with me and my older son (previous relationship).
Today is his uncles birthday and he wrote the card out "happy birthday love "sons name" "boyfriends name"..me and other son not included.
He did the same with his mums birthday.
He constantly posts pics to his Facebook of our son "my world" "this man is what's important "
What about me? And my eldest?
Makes me doubt if he only is with me and a family for our son
Aibu ?

My ex partner was a step child to a man who made it abundantly clear he only loved his biological child.

My ex was a very damaged human being and the person he blamed was his mother. She allowed the step dad into his life and she allowed the step dad to favour one child and treat the other like shit.

Do both your sons a favour and get rid!!!

I love my children unconditionally. If it were a life and death situation I would save my children over anyone elses children. That's a simple fact. Why anyone thinks you would have the same depth of feeling for someone elses children is odd. Provided this man parents both equally, and appropriately and does not make distinction between them, then you cannot stop him loving his child more.

FB is full of hearts and flowers and 'I'm blessed' and me'n'mine shite.

I've always wondered why a step parent is supposed to fill a gap and dispense equal love (often to the detriment of his/her own children) but no one expects the ex to step up and take out subsequent siblings on day trips and holidays etc. Why not? They are still siblings.

All of his (and your) family and friends will see his FB posts and think less of him - that he is a cock parading around his new born and leaving out his partner and SS.

They will all be thinking - what is she waiting for.....

Interesting how this thread has turned from you having to question your gut feeling about being angry about your names being left out (and saying you cant challenge him due to the sulks - abusive control right there - red flag).

Everyone here has experience from all over the place of this sort of set up and are telling you that this will have a profound negative long term impact on BOTH your sons. Dont let it happen. Listen and absorb the wisdom here - it is unanimous....

Our son is over 2 now and we split because he said he didn't love me anymore.

Does he actually do stuff/parent his own child? Or just act like a good dad?

Considering you broke up twice and only got back together because you were pregnant I’d say your assessment of the situation is probably quite accurate sadly.
A baby together doesn’t turn you into a family automatically.

Christmas is always with his family?!

Another thing you can bloody well change then when you dump him, and your sons can have Christmas as equals with a grandma who loves them both.

He's not a good dad, you know. Not at all. How he feels - parading HIS child, talking shit, but actually getting really basic things wrong like being a proper dad within the family, showing respect and love to you, his son's mum - ALL these things will damage your son and affect his family relationships.

He's exactly the type to start dick waving and shouting about his rights when you get rid, but wait and see whether he wants ot step up and do the hard graft of parenting... hmm.

You and your boys will do a lot better without him. And he was telling the truth - he doesn't love you. Only really himself by the sound of it - certainly not really your son.