Am I being unreasonable? A lot of the other children do, despite the school operating a 'no mobiles' policy and people having to request special permission to have one with them.
In the short few weeks that my DS has been at secondary he has lost three ties, a pair of £60 trainers, a valuable calculator (though this did resurface), half his PE kit and lots of stationery. As an LP on a moderate income and receiving no support from his Dad this absolutely exasperating.
Despite my misgivings about his having a mobile I got him one so that he could stay in contact with friends during the weekend. But he says he feels 'left out and jealous' as the majority of year 7s take their phones in and use them before and after school.
I recognise I probably shouldn't have got him such a costly phone that I am terrified of him either losing or having stolen from him (we live in inner London). I've said he either returns it and gets a more modest phone that I would be more comfortable with him taking in or he keeps the phone at home and using it during the weekends / evenings after homework. He snuck it in yesterday so I've now banned it for five days. As a result there is now a sour atmosphere at home that I can't bare.
Am I being unfair asking him to leave it at home? I'm thinking of reasoning with him that if he loses nothing significant for 3 months then he can take it.